This post isn't directed at anyone particular. It's merely a collection of my observations and opinions after being a part of NN for three years or so.I look at it like this:
A comment on a photo is just that - a person's immediate reaction to that particular image.
Comments are publicly visible and can sometimes turn into a bit of a "boy's club", so to speak. (Picture a bunch of frat boys sitting around in a bar giving each other high-fives and betting on who's going to lay the girl who just walked in. That is occasionally the comment arena.)
For those reasons, I am much more tolerant of crass or blunt statements regarding my own pictures. (I am not the sort to leave "I wnt 2 fuck u" comments on other people's pictures, but I can see why sometimes that's the only thing on your mind when you're looking at mine.
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A PM is an entirely different creature.
If you're taking the time to send me a PM, please be advised that you're speaking directly to ME and ONLY to me.
I am a real person. I have both a brain and a body, and I like to use them both.
I will respond to PMs that are polite. (They don't have to be gushing with superlatives and praise. Tell me whatever you're really thinking. Just don't be an asshole.)
I do have a bias toward messages that are written in something approximating proper English. I'm aware that not everyone here communicates in English. I will make an effort to translate your message, but I don't have a ton of patience for it. (This also applies to people who compose PMs like they're texting on a phone. FYI, I don't text like this "wnt 2 tlk 2 ne1" either. I use whole words and complete sentences.)
What would you do with a message like this one?
"Hey babe love your ass send me something special here - *off-site email address*"
Me, I'm either going to delete it without responding, or I'm just going to say "thanks for looking". I don't know you. Why should you get "special" pictures? I don't even know what's "special" for you. If you like what you see, look at it here on NN like everyone else. There's only one person who gets photos other than what you see here on NN, and he's my "special someone". You, anonymous internet stranger, are just not that important to me. Don't take it personally, and don't take it as a "hint" to try to become my friend. Please, just enjoy what I choose to share with you.
I say in my profile that I like articulate, intelligent chat partners, and I have posted several fictional sex scenes in the blog here.
That doesn't mean I want to engage in cyber-sex with you. I simply don't play along. If you ask me what I'm wearing, of course you want me to say "nothing" or "a schoolgirl uniform" or "sexy panties". I'm going to tell you the truth - jeans and a baggy, faded t-shirt. You're going to say "thts sexy" and keep plunging into your fantasy. You're going to say "thts sexy" no matter what my answer is. This is why I don't care to attempt cyber-sex. Nothing you're going to say is going to turn me on or even remotely intrigue me. It's actually going to disappoint me that you need my help with this. Please save us both the trouble and don't even ask. Also - no, I do not want to watch you jerk off. I don't have a webcam. I don't want to watch yours.
Also, as far articulate, intelligent chat partners and my posting of sex scenes goes, that doesn't mean that I want a random 1,000 word PM about what you'd like to do to me. This ESPECIALLY does not mean that I want the same random 1,000 word copied-and-pasted from you multiple times, and it really REALLY does not mean that I want a PM obviously written for some other woman. (When you continue to reference my "big glorious tits" it's pretty obvious you either a) haven't actually looked at my photos or b) don't bother to edit your stock fantasy.)
Ok. I'm done blathering on about this. Like I said, I wasn't targeting anyone particular. These are very common (at least in my experience) situations and I just wanted to offer my slightly skewed, slightly sarcastic opinion on the subject. And hey, if anyone bothered to read this entire post, thanks!