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We went to more private parties versus clubs and resorts. And it was a small part of our sex life to keep things fun and interesting versus planning our entire social life around it. That would have just been way too much. It was a nice balance then and even with our small circle of friends, it remains a good balance of including others in our sex life and doing what we want to do together. I think if it gets too out of balance in favor of what one person wants and not the other, storm clouds are rolling in. You need to constantly talk and re-establish limits and expectations. Good luck.