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Why not bring up the subject with your wife? I finally did after years of enduring a sexual desert (nobody's fault - just ended up that way; long story). To my surprise, when my wife finally understood that I wasn't taking anything away from her or from our relationship, she ultimately gave me her consent to find a FWB or an occasional play partner. It was important to her to be able to trust that this wouldn't develop into a competing relationship. It's always a risk because nobody knows how relationships can develop. But we've been married for 40 years and I can't imagine a life without her. She's not thrilled with the idea and she's not interested in playing herself, but I am able to explore.
An interesting thing happened when she gave me her consent. I have been under a lot of stress for years - it has literally made me sick (now living with congestive heart failure and kidney disease). As soon as she said OK, I felt an enormous amount of stress, with equal amounts of rage, anger, resentment, feelings of betrayal, feelings of being ignored, feelings of being unloved - the discovery of which was a surprise to me, as I thought I had worked all that stuff out - simply start to fall away like an old skin. I haven't even taken advantage of this newfound "freedom" (for lack of an appropriate word) and our relationship is much, much healthier than it has been for a long time. We've rediscovered the sense of humor we used to have; it feels wonderful.
So think about taking the chance and talk with her about it. Be frank and don't hold anything back. Let her know how much this matters and that you're talking with her now because it's important to you that you have her understanding and if possible, her support. That approach itself is an act of love. You may be pleasantly surprised.
We finally had that evening when we were camping at a cabin in the mountains. We rented a cabin, and it was heated only by the fireplace. Had a very bad cold snap, Bill and I split plenty of wood, we had all showered, and was ready for bed. Played a few drinking and truth or dare( no truth at all...all dare) of course we were completely nude together, and climbed under the covers to get warm. Before long we had roving hands, roving mouths, and we screwed each other. The girls finished each other by licking each other's pussies, and they wanted to fuck one more time, but my gf with Bill, and me fucking Karen. I was hard, but Bill wasn't. I went ahead and sucked Bill's cock, and the girls played with each other watching me.
Another time the gf and I slept with a friend of hers who was bi, and he couldn't keep his mouth off of my cock.
Second wife and I enjoyed the swapping partners lifestyle, but with only people we had hooked up with riding motorcycles. Was a select few couples.
Last time I sucked cock was about 10 years ago, I had a good friend I had met at a local bar. She was very young, and never hid her bisexuality. A couple of times we slept with her roommate and her boyfriend. I enjoyed screwing both of the girls, and he and sucked each other's cocks a few times....but me being 20 years older than the 3 of them... was fun....but I was really into older women.
Now married a 3rd time, sadly the wife is an invalid, and in a wheelchair. Sex is pretty much non existent
I do have a neighbor who I get to see a couple of times a month, and she is awesome. Still looking for another bi couple to be with
Suck all the dicks, nothing straight about that though..
Telling yourself that you are heterosexual is some weird cope.
Good luck.