Can You Grow Out of Being Bi?
14-Aug-22 21:28
I was recently made aware of a gay men's sauna about 15 miles away from me up Route 1. I had never heard of a gay men's sauna in the Greater Boston area. I certainly had never been to one. But despite the fact that I had my first bi experience at age 54 and hadn't so much as seen a cock since 2018, I was turned on by the idea..
SUNDAY AUGUST 7th - BABY STEPS
Before hitting the gay men's sauna on Route 1, I decided to start slower. I decided to try a place closer to home. It was actually located near my old workplace. I had driven by it 500 times but it never registered. It was a men's sauna but even Yelp said it was 100% above-board and legitimate.
And it was.
I was the first person there a little after 7 am. It was just me and the attendant Gene who was very attractive for a man in his 60s or 70s. He had me sign in. (Bi panic set in.) Then he told me where everything was, where my locker was, etc. They even give you flip flops. Oh and I didn't have to pay the $31 fee until I left. 2 hours maximum.
I entered the sauna alone with an erection. It would leave soon enough.
During my 90 minute visit, there were five men who came in. They were all cordial, told me some facts about the place, etc. None were attractive. Maybe that's why my erection left?
In any event I really loved the place but there was no sexual tension whatsoever. No one was even remotely looking to fool around.
SATURDAY AUGUST 13th - THE MAIN COURSE
According to everything I read about the place on Route 1, it was DIRTY! It definitely wasn't legit. Even the Yelp reviews mentioned open sexual activity. So I was incredibly turned on as I drove to C's in the early afternoon. I was loaded for bear. I took enough Sildenafil and a drink called Brahma Shot to choke a horse. I was actually worried that I was going to cum in my car on the ride there. I was insane with lust when I entered the place.
First let me describe the place. It was non-descript. No neon or flashing lights. It was just one storefront among ten or so in a strip mall. The place was tinier than the place from last Sunday. There was a changing room, a TV room to the left and a spa room on the right. The spa room had hot and cold jacuzzis, showers, steam and a sauna. The steam room --where I hung out--could probably hold 8 on a good day. The sauna is where I was sitting when I saw this guy in his 50s or 60s go down on a beautiful Korean man in his 20s. He didn't even ask permission. The sauna was more cramped than the steam room but that's where the action was taking place. Because I was new and no one was poking at my hen house, I chose to chill in the steam room and the jacuzzi.
As for the clientele, there were ten men there. Nine were attractive. There were at least 3 elevens (on a scale from 1 to 10). Several PERFECT cocks. But none were interested in me. I must have given off a sexually-confused, new-guy vibe.
Plus I could not stay or re-get hard. If I was ever going to get and stay hard, today would have been the day. There were beautiful bodies everywhere but it just didn't happen. I was precumming like a sonofabitch but my cock did NOT look like the cock you've seen in my pictures here. The highlight of my day was when one guy--who didn't ask my permission (nor did he have to)--took my cock in his mouth for 20 seconds.
Why do I think the ten guys ignored me? It could be the dad bod. I'm 5'9, 185. Not male model material. I also believe I don't give off 'gaydar'. It's probably true because I have no interest in kissing, rimming, being penetrated. That's a very limited menu for a bi man. Finally l told a couple of guys I was new.
The frustrating thing was that I wanted to play.
After an hour and fifteen minutes with no action or interest on anyone's part, I left. I simply chalked it up as a sexy but disappointing experiment.
CONCLUSION
These two experiences lead me to one conclusion -- I'm not bi. After all, biology tells you what you are. As much as being bi would be amazing, I am not bi. I base this on two naked male saunas where I could not maintain my chubby.
A long, long time ago I asked a mentor how I would know which girl to ask out. "A boner is a good indication," he replied in a deadpan manner.
Well no boner at these two places spoke volumes because I wanted one desperately at C's but biology overruled me.
SUNDAY AUGUST 7th - BABY STEPS
Before hitting the gay men's sauna on Route 1, I decided to start slower. I decided to try a place closer to home. It was actually located near my old workplace. I had driven by it 500 times but it never registered. It was a men's sauna but even Yelp said it was 100% above-board and legitimate.
And it was.
I was the first person there a little after 7 am. It was just me and the attendant Gene who was very attractive for a man in his 60s or 70s. He had me sign in. (Bi panic set in.) Then he told me where everything was, where my locker was, etc. They even give you flip flops. Oh and I didn't have to pay the $31 fee until I left. 2 hours maximum.
I entered the sauna alone with an erection. It would leave soon enough.
During my 90 minute visit, there were five men who came in. They were all cordial, told me some facts about the place, etc. None were attractive. Maybe that's why my erection left?
In any event I really loved the place but there was no sexual tension whatsoever. No one was even remotely looking to fool around.
SATURDAY AUGUST 13th - THE MAIN COURSE
According to everything I read about the place on Route 1, it was DIRTY! It definitely wasn't legit. Even the Yelp reviews mentioned open sexual activity. So I was incredibly turned on as I drove to C's in the early afternoon. I was loaded for bear. I took enough Sildenafil and a drink called Brahma Shot to choke a horse. I was actually worried that I was going to cum in my car on the ride there. I was insane with lust when I entered the place.
First let me describe the place. It was non-descript. No neon or flashing lights. It was just one storefront among ten or so in a strip mall. The place was tinier than the place from last Sunday. There was a changing room, a TV room to the left and a spa room on the right. The spa room had hot and cold jacuzzis, showers, steam and a sauna. The steam room --where I hung out--could probably hold 8 on a good day. The sauna is where I was sitting when I saw this guy in his 50s or 60s go down on a beautiful Korean man in his 20s. He didn't even ask permission. The sauna was more cramped than the steam room but that's where the action was taking place. Because I was new and no one was poking at my hen house, I chose to chill in the steam room and the jacuzzi.
As for the clientele, there were ten men there. Nine were attractive. There were at least 3 elevens (on a scale from 1 to 10). Several PERFECT cocks. But none were interested in me. I must have given off a sexually-confused, new-guy vibe.
Plus I could not stay or re-get hard. If I was ever going to get and stay hard, today would have been the day. There were beautiful bodies everywhere but it just didn't happen. I was precumming like a sonofabitch but my cock did NOT look like the cock you've seen in my pictures here. The highlight of my day was when one guy--who didn't ask my permission (nor did he have to)--took my cock in his mouth for 20 seconds.
Why do I think the ten guys ignored me? It could be the dad bod. I'm 5'9, 185. Not male model material. I also believe I don't give off 'gaydar'. It's probably true because I have no interest in kissing, rimming, being penetrated. That's a very limited menu for a bi man. Finally l told a couple of guys I was new.
The frustrating thing was that I wanted to play.
After an hour and fifteen minutes with no action or interest on anyone's part, I left. I simply chalked it up as a sexy but disappointing experiment.
CONCLUSION
These two experiences lead me to one conclusion -- I'm not bi. After all, biology tells you what you are. As much as being bi would be amazing, I am not bi. I base this on two naked male saunas where I could not maintain my chubby.
A long, long time ago I asked a mentor how I would know which girl to ask out. "A boner is a good indication," he replied in a deadpan manner.
Well no boner at these two places spoke volumes because I wanted one desperately at C's but biology overruled me.
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