Obvious surely.Do it.Enjoy.Stay stum.Got it.

Sure, expand your pleasure. It isn't others that decide who you are or what you want. I enjoy both men and women and have for some time. I think it si great that I can enjoy both worlds.

I think most women would consider that to be cheating and would be very upset and angry if they found out.

I personally wouldn't have a problem with it (I'd want to watch and would be telling you to put your cock in his mouth) but I think I'm a lot more open minded than a lot of other wives.

So while to me its not cheating I don't think a lot of other women would agree, they'd probably want to rip your nuts off

Your doing something behind her back, which to me is just plain cowardly. You will be cheating. If your wanting to do something like that without telling her, then there is something seriously wrong with your relationship. Maybe you should worry about that instead of playing with a cock.

unless you want her to watch or something i would keep it your secret.

it could just be a one time thing, have to know what it feels like. As a guy we really dont ge the chance to explore that side of our sexuality. I think we men love to jack off all the time why not do it with male friends too.

I agree with Coma Black on this one... I think the fact that you want to explore another aspect of your sexuality is great. And as Bi Wife said, I wouldn't have a problem with my husband doing this at all-- in fact, I'd find it incredible hot!! BUT what I would have a *huge* problem with would be if he did it behind my back. Being sexually intimate with another person-- without my knowledge or consent-- would be cheating in my relationship. (And I would be really hurt.)

I realize I may have a different relationship than most, but I think one of the reasons my husband and I have the type of relationship that we do is our communication. We talk about everything-- and sex is a huge part of our lives, so we talk about that a lot

We've both brought in new sexual ideas... sometimes it's taken a bit to warm up to the other's turn ons, but each thing has only brought us closer to each other and increased our own sense of intimacy.

So I realize you said you don't think your wife would understand, but think you should test the waters with her-- maybe introduce the idea by finding an erotic story about some M/M play and see how she reacts. Let her know you find the idea kind of appealing... by bringing her into your fantasies you're increasing the chances of making your own sex life even better instead of risking your marriage. And who knows... you may even open the door for her to share some of her "forbidden" fantasies.

Just my

My ex knew that I played around with guys before we got together, so we were on a different level to the OP's concerns. We somtimes had another guy in our bed and if he was ok with it he and I used to play with each others cocks. She enjoyed watching us, so no problem. We live separate lives now even though we have 2 houses on the same large block of land.
Her current fuck buddy sometimes comes over to my place to watch porn and have a jerk off session which sho knows happens. It really depends on how open and trusting the relationship is for these things to work for all involved in the situation.

Yes i hear you about fact that if kept a secret it is cheating, for every relationship should have open communications. Right now my wife has had alot of out of the box experiences with me. She really doesnt like to experiment and talk dirty even if its just make believe.
So i contemplate about spending the rest of my time in this marriage just having average sex life. when i kind of want a safe simple jerk with another guy, if i do it to porn why not have someone else jerk to porn with me. I do thank you for sharing your thoughts with me.

I think the fact that you arent telling her answers your own question...

to be honest, i think when and if you masterbated with another man present, in the heat of the moment you would end up doing more than batting off with each other.
and yes, she would be hurt if she found out you were doing this kind of thing behind her back.
you would probably end up in the divorce court. then what would you have?.
then again, if you cant communicate with your partner, you probably dont have much to lose.
blunt but true.

i think cuffs hit the nail on the head, plus everyone knows their spouse is she the open type or more closed? one thing is forsure though that one wank isnt worth pissing off your wife......

I think it would make more sense to have your wife present when you jack the guy off.

Ok this just might be another question, but how many of you have cheated on your partner. A mistress, a fuck buddy, were you able to keep it quiet. I would think alot of people both sexes look for sex outside of their relationship.

Parker, sounds like you dont like what most people are telling you by chaning your subject.Be straight about your fantsy to your wife and she just might suprise you, you can't hide it for to long once you do it and enjoy it you will always go back for more, there in lies the problem!

fun time,

you know i look at that car in your profile pic and i forgot all about cocks.............I know what your sayingand do realize that i just might like it and might get stuck trying different guys with different things. In some sense i have talked to the wife about similar things and she is not willing to add another to our spice. I was just hoping to try something safe and discreet and that i wouldnt get something. thanks for your responses.

Is it cheating? Probably.
Is masterbating and thinking about someone else cheating? Maybe, probably. The questions then becomes, so what? There's only the golden rule.

Go for it, you only live once....what she doesn't know won't hurt her. But I agree with whoever above that posted; in the heat of the moment it may lead to more than jerking off....are you willing to go there?

Oh, and I'll watch

Nobody is going to know your relationship, and how your significant other will react better than you. Personally, I think communication is the key in any relationship. In my mind, it would be cheating, and it may be more damaging that you are wanting this to be done with another guy.

Wish you the best of luck in your decision, but think about how your wife will feel and her reaction. Is this worth possibly causing a bump in your marriage?

You sound like you know it's cheating and you're constructing arbitrary boundaries around action with this guy in order to avoid acknowledging that it's sex. You also sound like someone trying to rationalize something he's already decided to do. Question: would you tell your wife if you were just going for a drink with the guy?

Only you know what this has to do with your sexuality and whether you need to do it. But doesn't it make you wonder about the barrier in your marriage that you can't tell your wife this thing about yourself?

Ok fair enough, to be open to communicate, to share experiences with each other. So lets be honest here a nn, how many of you here post pics of yourself and your other doesnt know about it. Would you say that is cheating, you are showing your naked body which should be reserved for your partners eyes. Thats right mine doenst know, and probably wouldnt care. That is my thought for todays reason for wanting to stroke with another guy. Really men how many of you have thought about doing a circle jerk, would you include your wife in that.

My o/h has no idea I am on here....

Well looks like the cat is out of the bag...................my wife made a comment that i might want a bi encounter. So looks like i will talk to her about what i want, and maybe she can watch to keep this a simple solution. I only fear that she will now think that i would want cock more than i want her.

I think sharing this experience with your wife is the best way to go... and as a woman who's seen her husband play with another man, let me assure you that I don't worry that he wants men more than he wants me. It's just something really hot that we shared-- another aspect of his sexuality that he got to explore, and I had the fun of being there, too!

I hope it works out for you!

I have those same urges. I would be patient and talk out your fantasies with your wife first. If you've already done it with another man , I'd leave out that information and try to get her perspective. If she can't tolerate it, your first allegiance is to the relationship since you've made that commitment. After that, you'd have to weigh out how much of a problem is it for you to never act out on it..?? Or, get out of your marriage and move on. Of course, she may mellow on the idea later on down the line. In my circumstance, I've had opportunity to act on my bi-sexual urges and weighed out my relationship when it got real close. I opted for my wife...the one I love. She voices an interest in seeing me with another man, but isn't truly ready for that. She also is hesitant to go to some of the swinger resorts we've gone to, but knows I love it and treats me to going to these resorts. So, I imagine it's only a matter of time and opportunity before I get to enjoy another man sexually...