Alpina's blog post - Different Fates

Tuesday, December 8, 2009, 4:34:54 PM
By someone who remembers the early days of my blog I was asked what my friends Elsie and Joerg were doing, the couple I spent so much time with in the past. We used to have a day per week which was our Jacuzzi evening, a Thursday, and which we usually spent naked in the tub and all around the garden and the house. Some might remember that we were really, really close; if you wonder how close it might be best to go back 80 pages and read about it yourself.

I met them lately in the streets and they asked me over to their house for some coffee. So much has changed. Since their baby son unexpectedly died shortly before I gave birth to our daughter, their life has slowed down. They go to work both, but they have not touched their Jacuzzi in a year (and I miss it so much). They have become kind of greyish, pleasure-less, as if perpetually under a dark, heavy cloud. That I saw them naked so often, that I was even present when they made love seems like in another life. They don't seem to have a body any more which they can enjoy like in the past, all which is left in a grieving mind.

A happy person like me with a healthy child, who constantly prattles on about her and who is so visibly proud is certainly the last person they can bear being with. It's so sad, but our different fates have turned us into strangers.

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bluecat33 on 8-Dec-09 17:25:27
I'm so happy for you, Alpina. And so sad for them. I'm sure also that it's a chance for them to have you as a friend.

Gio (who else?) on 8-Dec-09 23:46:37
so many things to read... but it's nice to read them cuz it means you are back and writing...

it's off topic, i know, but i just wanted you to know it... kisses

Running_Bare on 9-Dec-09 6:25:52
I watched my parents go through the "greyness" after the death of my sister at 13, she was 15 years younger than I.

But with the help of happy people, and with developing of relationships with their children about her age, they came out of it, and once again live in the sun.

Maybe this is your task, don't feel guilty for the happiness you have, just try and show them that they too deserve it.