Alpina's blog post - Catch 22

Wednesday, December 21, 2005, 8:54:47 AM

Thoughts are milling in my head. Phillip wants me strong, independent - a woman who makes her own decisions and lives her sexuality freely.

I have made my own decision to love him strongly and to live my sexuality freely with him. It's my own, independent choice to do so.

But there is something wrong with that. Because if I do what I want most, it seems that I appear to lose my independence in his eyes.

There is nothing worse than an order like "be independent", because it robs me of exactly that.

Is there a solution? Maybe ask him what to do exactly to appear independent to him? So that he can plan my independence for me?

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Vailboy on 21-Dec-05 9:45:05

Hmmm....
This a bridge we often have to cross, or not.
Thanks for your open and frank blog.

glassdick420 on 21-Dec-05 14:32:47

treicky situation indeed! Could it be that he wants an unattainable goal so that he need not remain committed? I can't imagine planned independence helping...lol. Maybe he is afraid of commitment...Good luck alpina!

flcamfan on 21-Dec-05 15:12:36

You will find that as you grow closer, his wants will change along with yours. Men want strong and independant women, but the meaning of that strength and independance changes over time. At first we want your strength and independance to show through that you do not need a man, but chose us anyway. Later, we just want to be able to make any decision on your own, but still value our opinions as well.