BitterSweetly's blog post - Rules of Engagement

Thursday, September 20, 2012, 7:54:38 PM

This guy and I have been friends for years. We were originally friends w/ bennies, and I always wanted more. At one point he told me that I was too good for him, and I believe that he actually meant it. He just got out of a 3 year rocky relationship.

We are currently entertaining the possibility of finally dating. He still puts me on a pedestal, so one of his hangups is that he is unsure if he is "good enough" for me yet. He also told me that during his previous relationship he thought about being with me often.

Most women have a "rule" as to when they have sex with a guy. I have two of them that pertain to this situation, and I'm having trouble keeping both of them. My casual sex or friends w/ bennies rule is that I will not w/ a guy that I would consider dating because feelings get in the way and somebody always ends up getting hurt. When it comes to dating a guy, I won't sleep with him until we are actually going out.

This is HARD. We are both attracted to each other, we've been flirting quite a bit, and I can remember the good sex that we had in the past (not to mention talk about it!). His dick is the right size for me, he's sufficiently kinky, and he lasts a decent length of time.

He's a great guy, and I enjoy being around him, but how oh how am I either going to reel him in or control myself?

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Others Have Said:

Ho-Lee-Chit on 21-Sep-12 1:57:15

You both know each other carnaly. Seems both of you, from what youve said, had feelings _other_ than sex for each other. Let things be what they will be. If the feelings are mutual, why fight them? Let it be. =P

BitterSweetly on 21-Sep-12 4:03:40

So you're saying screw the rules and go for it. Interesting, but I'm usually the one that gets hurt (hence the rules).

sammiealice on 21-Sep-12 4:39:09

if you want a real relationship, the place to start is with a friend

BitterSweetly on 21-Sep-12 4:41:21

Check. We've been friends for years.