LadyGodiva's blog post - Snap!

Thanks y'all. You confirmed my decision to dump the guy. I chickened out and sent him a short email saying we acted to fast in hooking up and we just don't match. He's way more infatuated with me than I am with him. Best wishes and all that.

He does his usual panic and texts, emails, and calls me all day long saying we need to communicate. oh pleeeeease. I try my best not to respond and let it all sink in.

Today, he continues the texting saying how sorry he is and things could still work out. I called him to finally end it. Trying to be upbeat and positive, I explain that I'm not myself around him because I'm finding things I don't like about him. I'm not into changing him at all, and yet I'm finding all these faults. And either he's picked up on this (or maybe not) and he's stumbling around apologizing and rethinking his statements. We are both not ourselves, not a healthy relationship. End it now.

Of course he says he's not that infatuated at all. He might be over-reacting a bit, but that is because of a previous relationship and the stress of his job that makes it hard for him to relate to others. And... get this... he has to pause several times because he's so overwrought and crying!

I hate to gripe about a man crying, it's a healthy thing for any human, but isn't that proof of his over infatuation? We met barely a month ago!!!

Besides, who of us doesn't have baggage they are carrying around? I certainly do. I divorced my husband of 16yrs and have been raising my kids alone for the past 10yrs. My dad dies of emphysema and my mom goes mental. She has 3 different cancers and dies, then her brother and sister die less than a year later and leave yet another estate for me to handle. Not to mention my mental state - look up double depression and then you'll see why I'm such a basket case.

I do not want to change anyone, nor am I here to support someone with needs. I'm sorry, that's very selfish of me, but I wouldn't be a good person to help anyone.

I told him he's letting his yesterdays ruin his todays and tomorrows. (LadyGodiva takes a bow for the 'brilliant and creative' line... thank you thank you.... )

Make the break already... let's hear it...

- Can we still be friends?
um sure we can try.

- Could I call to chat or maybe see if you want to see a movie one week?
no, I don't think that would be a good idea right now. Give this time to settle and MAYBE in a few months we can see.

SNAP, the break has been made.