So...where to begin?

Well you already know a little about me, I am in my 20’s and have only recently discovered the world of BDSM. This all came about when I met my boyfriend about 8 months ago. What started with a fairly innocent conversation about sexual fantasies, and a tentative mention of how I liked the idea of being tied up, soon snow-balled into an exciting and passionate exploration of all things BDSM. In the months since this has included bondage, dressing up in latex, sub/Dom play, sexual submission and training, spanking...the list goes on.

At the start he was the one in control, having past experience of being a Dom. I put up a fight at first but really loved the feeling of the total submission of bondage and being completely at his mercy. I also discovered a love of degrading and rough sex as well as an immense pleasure for pain that I never knew I had...withstanding a severe beating on one particular night that not only left my ass bruised for days but left me hugely gratified. Now why I enjoy being spat on, slapped, spanked, whipped, pissed on and spoken to like a dirty whore I am still not quite sure...I will have more of a think about this and get back to you in a future blog!

Anyway back to this blog, a couple of months ago my boyfriend suggested that we switch roles. At first I found this rather daunting and wasn’t sure if I could find the confidence to take control. But after giving it a go I found it much easier than expected to be in control and soon the power was going to my head and I was enjoying the thrill of being in charge and calling the shots. I also knew that with him there was no such thing as doing it wrong!

I think my boyfriend and I have a very unusual relationship, not necessarily in what do in the bedroom (although some would say so) but in the fact that we communicate openly and honestly about what we like, need and want sexually and this is what has allowed us to explore and enjoy things that other couples are unable to even talk about. There is not a single sexual fantasy that he couldn’t tell me about, not only that but that I wouldn’t try and more likely that I wouldn’t find equally arousing!

A leap of faith...?

With this in mind he recently revealed to me that he found the idea of wearing women’s panties a massive turn on!

...Now I’ll be honest, if you had told me 8 months ago that I’d be in a relationship where the man wears the knickers I would have told you that there was no way! I like a man to be a man (what ever that means!?) But now I can say without a shadow of a doubt that the thought of my Boyfriend in a pair of silky ladies knickers turns me on more that I could ever have imagined! I get positively wet just thinking about it!

I could tell that this was difficult for him to admit to because although he may have thought about it a lot he had never said it out loud especially to another person. And like any heterosexual man was worried about what it meant and how I would react. I truly feel so lucky and privileged that I am the person he chose to share this with and that he feels comfortable and confident enough with me to reveal his deepest fantasies.

Since this revelation we have begun to explore this further which has led us to where we are now... TBC