A Brit won the big Euro Millions jackpot, no it wasn’t me. He’s buying a new house, going on some holidays etc, which should take care of a tiny fraction of his new fortune. Lucky fella, I mean who doesn’t want to be rich.

What’s the definition of rich though? I’d be happy with just enough to do the things I wanted to do and to take care of my friends and family. I wouldn’t want a big house or flashy motor or expensive holidays and I’ve never been into jewellery or designer clothes, I’m a jeans and t-shirt kinda gal. Money doesn’t buy happiness, it certainly doesn’t buy health or eternal youth and it won’t bring people back from the dead. If you’ve lost a loved one, you’d trade anything to have them back, but not even a £71 million jackpot can do that.

Maybe it’s an age thing, but these days I don’t take much for granted. I treasure moments like the chaffinch’s first song (Feb 14 this year, if you’re interested) and I’ll marvel when the swallows make it back again. The sight of a rainbow always makes me smile, the first snowfall has me reverting to instant juvenile, I even enjoy long walks in the rain.

So the point of this rambling collection of words? Life is short, it’s not perfect, sometimes it’s total shite, but it’s the only one you’ve got. Don’t bank on winning the lottery, don’t expect to have everything you want, but try to make the most of what you can have. Sure I’d like to be the filling in a Patrick Swayze and Liam Neeson sandwich, but there are so many reasons that will never happen. The secret to happiness is to want what you can have, even if it is only for a few weeks a year …. are you listening Batman??

My dog regularly tells me that humans are weird. I think he really means that humans are different, but some are definitely weird. Truth is, we're all different, we like different things, think different things, do different things and that's good, just imagine if we all wanted the same.

It's much more apparent here on NN than in real life. Those of us that aren't the stereotypical norm find acceptance on NN, desirability even, which probably explains why we stay. It doesn't matter what we think is wrong with us, there will be someone who has that particular kink and finds us appealing. It's a buzz, a confidence boost, it makes us feel good about ourselves, so thank goodness for tall, short, thin, fat, big tits/bums/dicks, small tits/bums/dicks, long hair, short hair, no hair, etc etc etc.

It doesn't stop at physical differences, just as we all look different, we all think different too. We don't all react in the same way to situations, we don't even see those situations the same way. While some people shrug off an event, some are annoyed by it, some offended and some downright hurt. You only have to watch status for a while to see it happening every single day.

Which brings me to the point of this ramble. Some NNers post photos at the drop of a hat and some put a great deal of effort in, including that leap of faith when hitting the upload button. Not everyone who posts is brimming with confidence and wanting to show off, many are doing so with trepidation and hoping for approval. It takes bravery to put yourself out there, so when your photo is deleted without explanation, it can be a kick in the teeth. I'm not talking about webcrap or revenge posters or other obvious rule breakers, I'm talking about the genuine NNers who don't know why their photo disappeared and I'm talking about the reactions they receive if they dare to ask in status. Just because you're blase about photos being removed, it doesn't mean they are. Just because you don't think it's a big deal, it doesn't mean they don't.

I don't see a difference between people looking different and thinking different, except that one is bleedin' obvious and the other takes a bit of thought. Just because you can't see emotional and intellectual differences, it doesn't mean they're not there.

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If you’re here thinking this is your standard tits n bums ramble, you’d better back up now, you’ll find that in aisle 35 with the tissues and eye bleach.

This is a ramble though, a brain dump, a few observations after nearly 13yrs of this place. You’re welcome!

People end up here for all sorts of reasons, exhibitionism, amateur porn, attention we don’t get in real life blah blah blah. The saying goes we come for the pictures and stay for the people, something like that anyway. And that’s all fine and dandy, if we just take what we need and then get on with life. Trouble is, it’s human nature to want more, to have unrealistic expectations and that’s when it gets messy and people get disappointed, or worse.

Let’s start with the horny dudes, their dick pics and their “wanna fuck” status, thinking they’ll get a hook up tonight with a hot babe who’s just waiting to suck their enormous erection before taking it in the arse. They get ridiculed in status (yes, I know, I’ve done more than my fair share of that) and the few real women who’ve stuck it out lose a little more respect for the opposite sex (or do I mean species). Taking a positive view, at least they make the decent chaps appear even more decent by comparison.

At the other end of the spectrum are the hopeless romantics looking for a soulmate, someone to run off with into the sunset and live happily ever after. Yes, I know this has happened, there have been NN marriages and babies, but they really are the exception. Even if you find the needle in the haystack, NN relationships are at least as difficult as “normal” relationships, some stay the course, some can’t handle reality over fantasy, some just go with the flow.

Somewhere in between are the players, people who mess with the emotions of others. I often wonder if they’re as heartless in real life, if they’re just living out their alter ego on the internet, or maybe they’re getting their revenge for real life at the expense of their fellow NN-ers. I’m not sure which is worse.

So what’s my point? Well maybe not taking NN so seriously, finding some perspective, not believing everything we read, stepping back instead of diving in head first, taking a chill pill, or not taking anything personally. I honestly don’t know. I do know I’d like to give some people a good shake, others can have a slap and one or two can have a hug.