some of the most important qualities a sub must have to shine is in my opinion is the ability to be shameless and to be open. to endure private/public humiliation and to have your mind open to be "owned". being owned in a healthy dom/sub relationship should mean the slave trusts their master with their physical and mental well being during play. this also includes pushing them physically and mentally to their limits.
ive already mentioned in my previous post that we have a verbal contract between us. this was the result of several days of chat about expectations and past experiences from both parties. expressing wants, desires and limits. while not going into the details of our contract two areas were agreed as no go as expressed by us both. yet even after a few weeks babylon has expressed a desire to remove one of the no go areas, lots of training will be needed tho lol. the contact while always in place is a flexible thing.
within the first two weeks of our first play babylon had achieved several firsts, and more importantly has embraced them with a shamelessness that is delightful. she relishes meeting "handsome jack" (we name all our toys lol, he is my leather strap) or acting as my piss pot for the evening. no punishment is ever a punishment, which pushes me further to find babylons limits and break them down even further.
we also have a lot of fun along the way