beachdreamz's blog post

Friday, June 6, 2008, 12:08:03 AM

For anyone who doesn't normally read my blog this may come off as arrogent or that I am full of myself but any one who knows me, knows thats not the case.

I have been living in Toronto for 1 and 1/2 years now. In that time I have dated quite a lot of guys (well a lot for me. I have no idea whats average. Considering I really only had one boyfriend and never dated where I used to live any is a lot lol)

Anyways during that time...I would say 85% of the guys "come back" to me. Some I dated once, some a few times. Some were just meant to be a night out and some one of us was looking for something to happen.

Is that normal? Like I just got a text message a few weeks ago from a guy I dated 2-3 times. Telling me he missed me and wished we didn't live far apart (not that far really..an hour or hour and a half). That I am beautiful, fun, and he could totally see a relationship with me. I am only interested in him as a friend so I don't put much into it.

Then this week I get a message on Facebook from a guy I dated a few months ago. I really liked him but he started acting weird and distant so one night we got in a fight and ended it. So in the message he tells me how sorry he is and that I was probably the best thing to happen to him in a long time. That I always treated him very well and he was a dick to me. He will do what it takes to get me back. Even if friendship is the most I can do with him again he will take that.

Again I am not being cocky or anything but why do all these guys suddenly want back in my life. Is it because I am (and they are too) hitting close to 30? I know I am a lot happier lately and I am sure that shows but really I don't have contact with these guys so they would have no idea.

I kinda think once something is over its over. I think I would always be scared they would hurt me again. I know with the right person at some point the fairy tale bubble is going to burst and something will go wrong - but thats when you know its real if you can move on.

Thoughts anyone? Is it natural to go back to someone who wasn't right but now suddenly is?
How many times have you kicked your ass over the one you ended it with and now want another chance?

Comments

Others Have Said:

KnobCreekKy... on 6-Jun-08 0:10:51

when a guy comes back it means he will do anything you want for the sex...........if thats worth the trade off keep em hanging about if you want more then there wont be any doubt if you want him back

Torchey on 6-Jun-08 0:13:33

If your Happier now. I would say don't change anything. :) xxx

redjohn2003 on 6-Jun-08 0:23:26

Best to look forward not back, your own happiness is the main thing! :)

mdguy on 6-Jun-08 1:07:47

I have no answer to this... I can only wish you well with whatever you decide. xxx

shmucko on 6-Jun-08 3:46:17

I kind of agree, once it's over, but I have gone and made friends with a couple and remain so

ohyes499 on 9-Jun-08 18:36:47

don't change anything, as it goes i'm only civil to ex's (the big relationships i mean) if you go back you could possibly make a fool of your self (sex or no sex) :-) take it easy

GreeneydDen on 2-Jul-08 4:46:59

If any guy was a dick, don't even think about it. Once a dick, always a dick. Den.