blinky_x's blog post - My sex life or lack thereof...

Friday, December 10, 2010, 7:08:07 AM

I've been married for 12 wonderful years. We've had a good share of ups and downs, but mostly downs on sex as a married couple.
Is it cause I want to have sex possible ten times more than she does? Or is it I have a one track mind?

Needless to say I find myself wanting to engage in sex with the wife but all she wants to do is watch television or she's just too tired cause she of course stayed up too late the night before watching television.
So I find myself going to the gym more often or doing other things that will take my mind off sex.

Sometimes we'd play in the mornings but as per usual can't go any further since I'd be late for work and the kids late for school.

Every time I bring up the discrepancy in the want between us I get the feeling that sex is actually the furthest thing in her mind ever.

I don't think she's cheating on me since there isn't much time between work and home commitments for either of us so our time
is accounted for everyday of the week.

I don't know if anyone out here understands this or has experienced it first hand. All I have to say is that it is annoying to say the least. I guess things will run the same with us enjoying each other once every two or three months if not more at times.

I have to rant to someone and you're it.

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purr_rr on 10-Dec-10 7:12:28

this is quite normal, is she menopausal, and there are many reasons i wish you well , mb a suprise dirty weekend or even night awy, motel, wine n dine, music?

TNBuilder on 10-Dec-10 12:07:32

As the 'regulars' are well aware, I am in almost exactly the same situation as are a number of others who blog here. You have my sympathies on this, as there is not an easy answer.

mdguy on 11-Dec-10 4:08:12

Been ages since I checked on you. I am hoping that things will get better with you. With winter here, a warm and loving partner is worth gold.

Hang in there, blinky!

anomalee on 11-Dec-10 6:49:29

I'm older. But I understand where she probably is coming from. She most likely needs her hormone levels checked including thyroid. Also I personally will kill anyone who touches me before noon lol. I don't like mornings and like to be alone with my coffee, breakfast curled up in my corner with my blanket.
She may be pre-menopausal and that can go on for many years. And yes with kids, she's tired. You most likely will get sex when you're not pushing for it.
But a yrly drs ck up would be good to see if everything's working. Eventually even some men i know need hormones.