casstess's blog post - things vs ideas

You ever have the experience of getting off a phone call and thinking, “well, that wasn’t right”. That though you have had a connection with a person before, it seemed like the circuitry was broken. In old school terms, the telephone lines went down. Okay, half the population won’t understand that reference, but it means that communication was out of order.

In this instance, I’ll admit, I went zen. Zen for me is listening to songs really loud over headphones that will probably damage my hearing. That’s okay though, because I’ll die from cigarette smoking first and won’t have time to notice the hearing loss. Wish I could LOL that, but that’s probably not appropriate.

Anyways, I was upset. However, I have this amazing way of turning around my upsetness once I rationalize/realize/understand. (Flash forward to ten hours later taking a shower.)

A shower is not only a way to cleanse the body, but also it has an amazing way of cleansing the mind. Mid-shampoo, I realized that the "other” had a very long day and wanted to talk about things: the who, the what, the wheres…… I made a point I wanted to talk about other things, creative things: the the why and the how. For how often we are on the same page, we obviously weren’t.

At that point, a proper “adieu” should have been said. When talking, we are so often in the middle fluctuating back and forth and it is wonderful. However, when one is talking things and the other desires ideas, there is never a middle to be had.

Classic psychology will always point out that a man mostly talks about “stuff”, but then, what is to be done when I realize they are capable of talking about more than that? Should one be disconcerted when they don’t? Should I just accept the masculine styles and be beaten on the head by the who, what, wheres? Or, do I stand up and assert my “Why”?
...or maybe i just think too much and write too much and end up being ridiculous.