I am also heavily involved in the kink and BDSM lifestyle. What is it about BDSM that I find so necessary to not just my sexual gratification, but my day to day life? Naturally, I enjoy the control. To know that you are bound, helpless, and totally dependent on my mercy or lack thereof. To care for you as I would any other cherished item or piece of property, and for you to appreciate and thank me for this by being a good little submissive or slave while fulfilling my every desire. I love your ass as it takes on a deeper shade of red beneath my flogger or cane. I love the way your body responds and gets more turned on the more I hurt you. But I especially love caring for you once we’re done with reassuring cuddles, kisses, and certainty that you are more than just my plaything when we’re not in a scene.