Throughout my 20s, I was in a long-term relationship with a man who did not treat me very well, and definitely did not satisfy my needs at all! However, I thought the lack of sex and the very predictable sequence of events was normal, and love kinda does this thing where you make compromises because you keep thinking things will change. The relationship petered out over the course of many years and I finally broke free.

Sadly, I made it to my 30s without really having experienced all that much sexually (missionary, anyone?). Shyness and perfectionism have made it difficult for me to branch out and try new things as I'm terrified of doing it wrong.

This year has been a complete eye-opener for me. I managed to meet someone who was willing to be patient with me and guide me so that we both have a great time in bed together. From the moment he touches me, my whole body just responds to him. I had no clue I could have multiple orgasms (previously one orgasm was a rare occurrence), and he takes great pleasure in torturing me with them lol.

After a particularly intense session, I mentioned I lost count of how many orgasms I had. His reply: "me too, dirty thirties huh?"