dziga's blog post - A strange contradiction with commenting...

I do have a strange contradiction when it comes to commenting on pics.

Here we are on a site where we are displaying our bits for all the world to see in a feeling of sexual celebration (at least I hope most of us are doing it that way), yet I feel it is somewhat improper to just make dirty comments unless I know someone and know that it is appreciated.

Why? Ideas of proper conduct I guess.

It is interesting...through my recovery work of trying to help other people, I have heard a crazy amount of sexual stuff. The vast majority of people I have really had those talks with have done things far outside the scope of what I have done. I've never cheated on a girlfriend. Only a couple of one night stands. Never done the misleading a girl on only to get sex bit. A whole bunch of stuff. I've been shockingly "gentleman like" in those regards compared to just about everyone I have hung around with throughout my life.

An old idea which still runs through my head is that women are just sexual in the context of emotional relations rather than just the physical. That sex just for the sake of sex isn't part of the female vocabulary.

There were lots of problems in my marriage. I do choose to own up to everything now, for I was not a victim of any of her issues as I thought myself to be for a long time. I had choices.

Anyways, one of the problems was lack of sex. When we discussed it, our viewpoints were different in a fundamental way. I would bring up physical intimacy leading to emotional intimacy, she would bring up emotional intimacy leading to physical intimacy.

I know that my thinking in regards to the differing sexuality between men and women is far too black and white, but those old ideas are hard ideas to rid oneself of. NN has helped immensely with that, although those lingering suspicions crop up even here.

I sense a big disconnection in my thoughts in this area. There is some kind of lack of freedom going on in all of this.

I have a feeling that perhaps a trip down the dirtier comment direction may happen in an effort to challenge that old idea in that way.

Life is an adventure!