hottlavender's Blog - page 6

just a little here and there....for now.

AUDI R8



the Golden Gate bridge from the north end of it.



a beautiful and lonely house in North Las Vegas



the Bellagio fountains in Las Vegas, NV

this was a few weekends ago when the weather was a little clear. this weekend i will be taking a little more shots around town. this was at the multnomah falls in portland, oregon.

Getting to know someone is not a task--it’s an art.

-Pierce LeBlanc

The Whys of Men



1. WHY DO MEN BECOME SMARTER DURING SEX?


(because they are plugged into a genius)




2. WHY DON'T WOMEN BLINK DURING SEX?


(they don't have enough time)




3. WHY DOES IT TAKE 1 MILLION SPERM TO FERTILIZE ONE EGG?


(they don't stop to ask directions)




4. WHY DO MEN SNORE WHEN THEY LIE ON THEIR BACKS?


(because their balls fall over their butt-hole
and they vapor lock)




(You're laughing aren't you?!?!)




5. WHY WERE MEN GIVEN LARGER BRAINS THAN DOGS?


(so they won't hump women's legs at cocktails parties)





6. WHY DID GOD MAKE MEN BEFORE WOMEN?


(you need a rough draft before you make a final copy)





7. HOW MANY MEN DOES IT TAKE TO PUT A TOILET SEAT DOWN?


(don't know.....it never happened)




( C'mon guys, we laugh at your blonde jokes!)




And the personal favorite:


8. WHY DID GOD PUT MEN ON EARTH?


(because a vibrator can't mow the lawn)




Remember, if you haven't got a smile on your face and laughter in your heart...Then you are just an old sour fart




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One for the ladies

One day my housework-challenged husband decided to wash his Sweat-shirt Seconds after he stepped into the laundry room, he shouted to me, "What setting do I use on the washing machine?"

"It depends," I replied.

"What does it say on your shirt?" He yelled back, "University of Oklahoma."

And they say blondes are dumb...

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A couple is lying in bed. The man says, "I am going to make you the happiest woman in the world." The woman replies, "I'll miss you..."

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"It's just too hot to wear clothes today", Jack says as he stepped out of the shower, "honey, what do you think the neighbors would think if I mowed the lawn like this?"

"Probably that I married you for your money," she replied.

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Q: What do you call an intelligent, good looking, sensitive man?
A: A rumor

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Dear Lord,
I pray for Wisdom to understand my man; Love to forgive him; And Patience for his moods. Because, Lord, if I pray for Strength, I'll beat him to death...
AMEN

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Q: Why do little boys whine?
A: They are practicing to be men.

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Q: What does it mean when a man is in your bed gasping for breath and calling your name?
A: You did not hold the pillow down long enough.

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Q: How do you keep your husband from reading your e-mai l?
A: Rename the mail folder 'Instruction Manual.'


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Send this to at least five bright, funny women you know and make their
day!


And send this to five bright men who have enough sense of humor to take it!

12 Tests to Discern Between Love and Infatuation
From the book "Love Sex, and Lasting Relationships" by Chip Ingram

1. The Test of Time
Love benefits and grows through time; infatuation ebbs and diminishes with time. Infatuation may come suddenly. We find ourselves thinking, Boom! Im in love. Thats actually infatuation. We probably ought to make an effort to avoid speaking about falling in love. We can fall into infatuation, we can fall into lust, but we most truthfully grow into love. Love develops out of relationship and caring and core personal character traits, not our instant impression or perception of another person. Infatuation can explode at any moment, but real love takes time. More than one wise person has advised not to declare love until a reasonable amount of time has passed.

2. The Test of Knowledge
Love grows out of an appraisal of all the known characteristics of the other person. Infatuation may grow out of an acquaintance with only one of these characteristics known about the other person. Something about the way that person looks or the way he or she functions in a certain role may give you a very distorted idea of their full character. You may not even know the other person. Frankly, a glance or a chance meeting can act as a kind of trigger that sets off the chemicals.
Infatuation lives in a make-believe world where the object of our affection is perfect, flawless, and completely devoted to us. Infatuation is happy to know very little. Love longs to know well. Love wants to study the other persons needs, desires, dreams, and hopes because it wants to do everything to make them a reality. Love is interested, not in what it can get, but in what it can give. The development of a relationship ought to be like an undergraduate degree in which the other person becomes a multifaceted and fascinating study. Marriage, then, becomes a lifelong pursuit of a Ph.D. in knowing and understanding your spouse.

3. The Test of Focus
Genuine love is other-person centered. Infatuation is self-centered. You know what infatuated people are all caught up with? Themselves. I watched a roommate in college discover the power of infatuation for the first time. The Greeks were right he went a little insane.
Every time we talked it was about how he was going to look, how he was going to come off, what kind of impression he was going to make. I admit I had my own set of relational dysfunctions, but even I could see (infatuation is almost always more obvious in someone elses life) that he was suffering from some kind of fever or virus. What was his focus? Himself. Thats not love; thats chemical exchanges of the brain. Infatuation.
In your most important relationships, to what degree is your attention focused on what you are receiving from them and to what degree is your attention focused on meeting the others needs? Do you think about how youre going to look and feel in the relationship, or about what you can do to make that person look and feel great?

4. The Test of Singularity
Genuine love is focused on only one person. An infatuated individual may be in love with two or more persons simultaneously. The great majority of affairs rarely occur solely on the basis of physical attraction. They usually start out with a little chemistry during a time of vulnerability. But families break up because very good, godly people simply havent learned what to do in a situation where it suddenly feels so good to get some of the eros out. They confuse infatuation with love and make foolish decisions.
The life cycle of infatuation is nine to eighteen months. Then all those breathless and wonderful feelings leave, and youre stuck with another person with the same kinds of needs that you have. That person knows you cant be trusted because you left your last mate. You know you cant really trust them because, down deep, youre afraid of experiencing the kind of betrayal that you inflicted on someone else. Whats left are two unhappy people struggling with character flaws. If you dont know the difference between infatuation and love, youll destroy others loves and your own.

5. The Test of Security
Genuine love requires and fosters a sense of security and feelings of trust. An infatuated individual seems to have a blind sense of security, based upon wishful thinking rather than careful consideration; infatuation is blind to problems. Or he or she may have a sense of insecurity that is sometimes expressed as jealousy. Security grows and flows out of deep awareness of the other persons character, values, and track record. You know who he or she really is. And when you know who they really are, you trust them. You are not jealous because you know their heart is yours. Jealousy is often a sign of a lack of trust, and a lack of trust is a sign of infatuation in real life.

6. The Test of Work
An individual in love works for the other person, for his or her mutual benefit. By contrast, an infatuated person loses his or her ambition, appetite, and interest in everyday affairs. A woman in love may study to make her husband proud. A man in love may have his ambitions spurred on by planning and saving for the future together. Partners in genuine love may daydream about the potential of their relationship, but their daydreams are reasonably attained. People in infatuation only think of their own misery. They often daydream of unrealistic objectives and ideals that neither they nor their partner could ever actually attain. Sometimes the dreams become substitutes for reality and each individual lives in a world of his or her own imagination.

7. The Test of Problem Solving
A couple in love faces problems frankly and tries to solve them. Infatuated people tend to disregard or try to ignore problems. If there are barriers to getting married for a couple in love, those barriers are approached and removed. The barriers that cannot be removed may be circumvented with knowledge. They do not go into marriage blindly. They handle problems with clear, shared decisions. On the other hand, friends and family may be astonished at the foolishness and blindness of infatuated people.
Genuine love, contrary to popular belief, isnt blind. It sees very clearly. Infatuation, on the other side, exists almost completely in the dark.

8. The Test of Distance
Love knows the importance of distance. Infatuation imagines love to be intense closeness, 24/7, all the time. I often counsel those who are dating to go on a short-term mission trip or take on a project that will require them to work alone. If circumstances require you to be temporarily separated from the one you love, that will teach you a lot about the quality of your relationship. In terms of distance, if youre in a long-term relationship right now and you call each other three, four, or five times a day, or you just have to see each other every day, thats not a good sign. That means youre trying to keep the chemicals alive. If there is not a sense of separateness, a distinct life, relationships with other people, and healthy balance, then the relationship is probably a lot more infatuation than it is love.

9. The Test of Physical Attraction
Physical attraction is a relatively small part of genuine love, but it is the central focus of infatuation. Now dont read small part to mean not a part in what I just stated. If your heart doesnt skip a beat now and then and you dont feel real attraction for you mate or the person you plan to marry, Id call that a problem. Lets not make genuine love so spiritual that we deny reality and Gods Word. Sexual attraction definitely has a part in love.
In contrast, Ive noticed an important characteristic about couples in genuine love. For them, any physical contract they have tends to have special meaning as well as pleasure. Couples often communicate volumes through looks. These tend to express what they feel toward each other. In infatuation, direct, continual physical contact tends to be an end in and of itself. Time together requires only pleasurable experiences. Infatuation tends to produce a relationship that attempts to exist on the emotional equivalent of a continual sugar rush.

10. The Test of Affection
In love affection is expressed later in the relationship, involving the external expression of the physical attraction we just described. In infatuation affection is expressed earlier, sometimes at the very beginning. Affection tends to push toward greater and greater physical intimacy. Without the control of the other aspects of genuine love, affection spends itself quickly. It gives the appearance of making the relationship close, but the closeness is artificial and fragile. When affection flows out of deep understanding and growing friendship, it gains in meaning and value.

11. The Test of Stability
Love tends to endure. Infatuation may change suddenly and unpredictably. In infatuation the wind blows here and youre in love. The wind blows there and youre in love. Not so with real love. Real love is stable. There is commitment. The test of stability can hardly be applied to a relationship measured in days or weeks. So how do you test stability? Society suggests we test it by living together: For reasons we will look at later, living together actually promotes instability rather than stability.
The best way to test stability in a new relationship comes through knowing that person in the context of his or her other relationships. Frankly, someone who has been married more than once ought to expect to be calmly and seriously tested when it comes to the question of stability.

12. The Test of Delayed Gratification.
A couple in genuine love is not indifferent to the timing to the timing of their wedding, but they do not feel an irresistible drive toward it. An infatuated couple tends to feel an urge to get married instantly. Postponement for the infatuated is intolerable. Why is this? Why wouldnt a couple wait and do it at the right time in the right way? Why wouldnt a couple want to deal with the real issues so they could have a solid marriage? These questions reveal the difference between love and infatuation.
As you enter into a potentially serious relationship, ask yourself if your pace is based in fear or faith. Is your pace based on anxiety over deprivation and physical drives, or is your pace the result of a desire for careful and thorough preparation for marriage?

today it was a nice day...busy at first, calm and then suprise! i came back home from window shopping at the mall with my niece and i got beautiful flowers......they are beautiful and sit by my night stand making me smile feverishly like a little girl....

i love flowers....




the lure of pink flowers....



sitting by my bed....



my messy room....

at the southernest point of America....and look carefully, southern was spelled "southerNN"....




sunrise on South Beach, FL....


my private honolulu...

What It Takes To Be A Good Friend
by Jwbrnco1
A good friend is always kind,
Should always speak their mind,
Their compassion should never end,
That's what it takes to be a good friend.

A good friend is there for you,
They are real, they are true- blue,
Their compassion should never end,
That's what it takes to be a good friend.

A good friend will be there when you marry,
A heart full of memories, they will carry,
Their compassion should never end,
That's what it takes to be a good friend.

They'll be there if your mother dies,
They'll weep with you when you cry,
Their compassion should never end,
That's what it takes to be a good friend.

If a good friend you do find,
Make sure they treat you kind,
Understanding they shouldn't lack,
And they would never stab you in the back,
On top of everything always remember,
A best friend is forever.

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON

This is something that I found in my wanderings on the net. I have seen this for years and in slight variations, but wanted to share with everyone these thoughts.

I think too many times we get hurt when someone special isn't in our lives anymore. We may even sour the good times & memories of them, somehow thinking that their love or friendship was 'fake' or some sort of an act . . . instead of just seeing it for the blessing that it was while we were happy that they were in our lives.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. It should give you peace knowing which one it was and better perspective of how to continue to remember the fond memories that you shared.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

You wake up one day and you are overwhelmed by the news you had just recieved the day before......you don't know how to react or feel about it? At first I cry softly, then angrily and then morbidly. You ask yourself, "why me?" then you are xxxxxx to think logically. You have always been the one supporting everyone else with their causes, you worry what about me now? You debate wether you want to discuss it to the world (you own and share with many friends and family who claim you as theirs) or keep your secret to a select few and hide behind the fears?

You think about your strategy and you then break down again. The emotional ride is an overwhelming and persistant reminder that it is happening to you. You need to own up to your battle and plan out your plan. Where do I begin? Where should aim for? Who will follow me? It is all there. My fate awaits, as I rage a difficult battle ahead of me. Here's my 300, and my legend shall follow.

Will you be there WITH me?

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Everyday we get up and conjure all sorts of thoughts. We think about ourselves and forget for a second, about the struggling out there. This is a friendly reminder, of the many battles being fought everyday! We send prayers and love to those HEROes fighting for our freedom in the middle East and all around the world, but what about in your forefront?

What will people now think about the friend you have made through a sexy adult site? It's always fine and dandy, but it's difficult to ignore the obvious. We say yes, when we really mean no. Don't let good people in and out of your lives because of social economic regimes, befriend them for who they are and not what they are. There is only one race we know, and it is the human race. Always make love and support the loves you know.

Enjoy the breasts now, because soon enough the battle begins to keep my life and get new ones if I endure. Support your Pink Team and help those who have Breast Cancer. Ladies, always keep healthy and give yourselves your self breast examinations and never think its too early or too late. Gentlemen, support near and dear friends, families and neighbors you know who are battling Cancer of any kind.

Think about the PINK!