Moving sucks! That being said, all my stuff is loaded into my apt, and my desk/puter, bed and bathroom are unpacked. I took the day off and came out to my SO's house to nap and watch tv all day. I'll head back tomorrow, begin Monday morning unpacking, and maybe making bacon.

I worked so hard moving the last few days, I have hurt my beer-drinking arm. Ouchie!

I went to an 'internet party' last night to meet some of my new neighbors, and found that one girl lives just two small blocks away!

I am enjoying my new life, very much, already. I will have more time when I get settled in, so keep your eyes peeled for me in the chat.

Sandman, is it time for you to come back yet?

First and foremost, this is a sex site. Most people expect to be able to PRV at will, and I imagine more than enough times, it's been a welcome event, so as to encourage those that do this. That being said, as the rules stand now, a member of the chatroom must state clearly and politely that they do not want to PRV (either to a Mod or publicly in chat), and after that, if their wishes are not respected, a Mod can take action.

As for solutions to this, I know that they've been bandied about of late. The best option, in my opinion, would be an individual /ignore feature in chat, as there is on IRC, and many other chat servers.

It is my considered opinion that if the members of chat want a new rule made "ask first" then that should be taken up at the administration level to conduct a poll and make a decision.

In the meantime - I understand that some people think that it's the "principle" of the issue and don't want to turn of their PRVs. Well, that's nice and all, however, I say again - this is a sex chat. The /prvoff is a valid choice.

For those who do want to PRV with selected individuals, I have some suggestions. First, sometimes it works to simply announce that your PRVs are off, turn them off for a few minutes, then turn them back on. Most people won't know that you've turned them back on and you can go back to your private conversation. Another solution is to inform the person with whom you do wish to PRV with that you will exit under your current nick and rejoin under another, more masculine/gender non-speciific nick. That way, it's most unlikely that you will be constantly barraged.

I know this isn't a perfect system, but these few tips can save a lot of problems for folks who are bothered by what's going on.

Just my US$0.02...

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I'm back! Not as frequently as I once was (two jobs and school) but I will stop in chat when I can and who knows, maybe I'll even post again...

The time off has done me very good - I've made important progress on a few things that needed attention, and I'm happier and healthier than I have been in years.

Some major changes are coming up soon - I'll be making a big move to a large city soon, and I'm continuing to explore the most amazing relationship I've ever had.

I'm so lucky!

Just dropping a quick note to say I'm extending my NN "vacation" for a bit longer. I'll make my way back eventually.

When a person posts something of themselves online, it is very much an act of trust. One becomes vulnerable, literally exposed to the world. It is an act of bravery. The comments and feedback that follow, I believe, resemble something what celebrities must face.
There are good reviews and bad reviews and each must be taken with a grain of salt. Just as the positive ought not to go to one's head, the negative feedback must also not be taken to heart.
There are many, many websites catering to the amateur exhibitionist. None that I have found have been nearly as supportive to the individual as NN. The people that I have encountered here in the comments, PMs and chatroom are by and large warm, pleasant, supportive and loyal to NN's vision. I feel incredibly lucky to have found such a place, and hope that everyone who cares for it continues to hold a high and attainable standard.
The best way to do this, I believe, is to meet the negative with patience and dignity. By setting an example of integrity and kindness, of open-mindedness, acceptance and understanding, NN will continue to grow as a supportive and loving environment for exhibitionists and voyeurs alike. I believe that the only way to keep the negative to a minimum is for the positive to will out. Stick with it, folks - this here is something worth fighting for.