juicy's blog post - Something to think about

I have a friend going through a very difficult time right now. It is very common for everyone to sympathize and put out the very heart felt offer of - "If you need anything let me know!"

That was my first instinct. I said those words, we all did and do. Then I thought about the times the same offer was presented to me. What she is going through is overwhelming. Reaching out to express what she needs is not easy nor helpful. She doesn't have the capacity to focus on delegating chores. It took me a few hours to remember how grateful I was for those offers I was but how I did not take a single person up on their kindness and generosity.

I reached out and asked her if I could do what is usually a very simple chore for the next few days. It made a difference. It made a huge difference to her. I took one small thing off of an over flowing plate.

I am not tooting my own horn. That would be ridiculous. I am just hoping that if you really want to help, take the initiative. Take control of just one thing. Ask if you can do something very specific for the person you would like to help. Yes or no is all that is required of them. That they can handle.

Pragmatic,
ju