kittenmmm's blog post - devastation

in a gesture that was meant to be a stress reliever for me and assistance for both, old_wolf5 offered to fly me to Dallas to spend a day with his family and then help him drive back to New England. He offered to move in as my roommate because I hadn't found a job yet and my wasband was no longer giving me enough to cover my bills..not even enough for the mortgage. Before anyone gets the wrong idea, this arrangement was meant to be purely a gesture of friendship and was being kept in a platonic manner.

I had a contract for renting a room drawn up. He had his own space and rules and regulations. At no time did we intend to share a room, a bed or anything other than companionship and friendship. I talked to my son about it prior to having him move here and if he had concerns I believe I addressed them but I was under the impression that he was ok with it.

I had my mother at the house while I was gone, my neighbor over to feed the animals. I believed that I had acted responsibly. While I was gone though, my wasband came over and took my son. I came home to an empty house.

He took him out on Friday, and that night came back with a letter from his lawyer, advising that under the circumstances my son should live with him until the matter was straightened out. The matter being that I have a "stranger" moving into the "family" home. This home being the one he's no longer paying the mortgage on. The stranger being someone I probably know better than him even after 15 years of marraige. The stranger also being a person whom both my son and I met in August and then hosted in October. The fact that my wasband refused to meet him and left me before he got here on a vacation only makes him a stranger by choice.

At any rate, he has my son hostage .... will let me talk to him on the phone but he doesn't want me to talk about the situation with him (really? why not? could it be you've manipulated him as you did me for so many years?). I think I've convinced him to let him come here this afternoon but he insists that he sleep there. I have to talk to my lawyer today and I've a feeling that what he did was illegal (certainly should be anyway) or at the very least, premature.

If my son were happy there I wouldn't have a problem with it because as far as I'm concerned his happiness and well being are paramount. However, he didn't sound happy on the phone. My mother also said that he had wet eyes when his father was grabbing his things out of the house. This is his home, this is why I wanted the house. I don't need all this and all the work it involves, it was just for my son.

Sorry, for unloading but I'm not in a good place right now. I know everything will work out as it should but it doesn't make me feel much better right now.

Prayers would be appreciated.