kittenmmm's blog post

Today I'm not curled into a ball crying so I suppose that's a good thing.

Wasband wouldn't let my son come over yesterday. He says he's afraid I won't let him leave. So many things come to mind when I say that...maybe, he's become so cruel and different that he doesn't realize that I haven't really changed. My son would be allowed to go if he wanted to. But, that's besides the point.

He says I can visit him there. How kind...keep in mind that I never denied him access in any way, shape or form. He was allowed to take my son at any time and go wherever he wanted. I never xxxxxx him to visit under my nose. Maybe I should have.

He says I can call to talk to him but that he will not have me talking about this situation because he doesn't want him upset. Excuse me? If you didn't want him upset you would have left him where he was.

He also admitted that this was not my son's decision, it was his. He said the concern that my son had regarding having a roommate come in was that I was replacing my husband with my roommate. Of course a child would have this concern but that's not a legitimate reason to remove him from the house. He said he had a problem with a stranger moving in...he didn't know him..to which I said he had ample opportunity to meet him, he was the one who chose not to, and he was quite welcome to come over now as well. He doesn't want to. Of course not, why should he get to know someone to remove his concerns when this way he can use his ignorance for his own purposes.

He said he had a wad of cash to give to me to pay bills...but I never saw it. Nor did he ever tell me he was going to give me money to pay bills. Things may have been very different had he told me his intentions. As it was though I was left with a 1300 dollar mortgage and only 1000 to pay it.

I know that this will work out in the end but it really tears me up that he's doing this to my son. He's hurting him and apparently he doesn't care or if he does he's got some misguided notion that he's protecting him. I suppose we all need protecting from Baptist preachers and good families. I'm trying to remain civil and not start an all out war but he needs to let my son come home.

In reflecting on this I think that no matter what I would have done or when I would have done it, his actions would have been the same. He wanted to sign the papers and agree to everything as long as my son lived with him. Then he changed his mind saying that my son seemed well adjusted and happy. Now, he's used this latest event as a springboard to accomplish his desires. Who knows, with enough prayers maybe he'll have a change of heart again. If not I suppose it will be in the court's hands.

My son said he missed me last night....if that doesn't tear your heartstrings out I don't know what would.