kricket187's blog post - So what had happened was...

Friday, August 23, 2024, 2:13:42 AM

I know, I know. I've been away for like 3 forever. But I really need a friend to listen. I pretty much left NN some time ago.
When I left, I went with a handsome man, but he wouldn't like NN. He was funny, and fun, and he thought me beautiful.

Time just slips away and days become weeks. Weeks to months. Months to years.

We fought. Sometimes more than socially acceptable. He hit me. With a closed fist as a man against a man will do. But I am not a man. He hurt me.

I always swore to myself that I wouldn't tolerate that. I said again and again I'd never let myself accept that. But I did. More than once. He would hit me. I would hit him back. And all the lies I told.... That black eye? I fell.

I'm home now. Safe. But I can't quite shake him. He won't stop texting or calling.

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dziga on 23-Aug-24 2:32:59

So sorry to hear that, horrible stuff. Try not to fault yourself for putting up with it for as long as you did and the lies...it is a very human thing to do. None of us are anywhere close to being perfect

Stay strong and feel free to message if you need to, as an alcoholic who deals with a lot of stuff when trying to help other alcoholics I can actually be pretty good at respecting boundaries in such situations

But mostly stay stong and safe!

kricket187 on 23-Aug-24 2:39:49

Ty love. You're awesome.

Dignitea on 23-Aug-24 5:57:43

Hello Krick, glad you are in a safe place any man who hits a woman like that is the lowest of the low, I truly detest them, my friends daughter was recently in the same place as you, but she is with her mum now.

jake5270 on 23-Aug-24 17:49:43

A male who hits a woman is not a man in my book. I hope you reported him. I have dealt with this in the past. There is no excuse at all for his actions. I would hope you are safe and that you're being comforted.

Petiteaurora on 25-Aug-24 5:15:01

Oh love, I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I’m glad you are safe now. Men like this want to control you, and will always try to contact you. Please stay strong and don’t reply to any calls or text. You can message me any time. Sending you lots of love x

HaggardHellBoy on 26-Aug-24 11:57:37

Hi krick, i'm so sorry you have gone through this and that you are now home and safe. No one ever deserves violence especially from someone who is supposed to care and love you. I remember when you were here regularly, you were always so welcoming, kind and funny. You are strong and will get through this.

Contact the police if you haven't already and try and get some sort of no contact order put in place.

Stay safe and you still have lots of friends here to talk to and get advice from.

XX

pieeaters69 on 26-Aug-24 22:35:56

hope you pull through here - def get authorities involved and get restraining order on him - don't let him ruin your life no matter how much you think you love him or are just used to him being there - there are a world of men out there who would drop everything to be with a woman that is so strong as you are - so stay strong - move on - and enjoy your freedom!

used_to_be_Dummy on 11-Sep-24 12:27:17

probably the last person you want to hear from, but im hear if you need to talk