mehotdee's blog post - Sexless relationships

I am constantly amazed at the sheer number of men that are in a marriage/relationship with a woman that does not want to have sex. I have chatted online for years, listened to talk shows and read more article than I can count about guys that say they have not had sex in a year, 5 years, 10 years. It seems so crazy to me. Why would anyone stay in a loveless relationship that long? I just learned that a guy I work with is finally getting a divorce after not having had sex with his wife for nearly 6 years. He said he was waiting for his kids to finish high school, which I find noble, but I cannot imagine that house was a fun place to be for anyone. Kids know when stuff is wrong with their parents. I am sure there are other relationship issues, but certainly the sex is a key indicator of problems.

I could not imagine being in a relationship for that long and not being intimate. Hubby and I used to listen to Playboy Radio when it was on Sirius (Tiffany Granath) and we would hear guys call in asking how to get their wife to have sex with them after X-number of years. I was floored that there were so many people out there like that. Every show had multiple callers with the same issue. My hubby would look at me and say "Unless there was a physical reason to not be able to have sex, I would be out the door in months, not years". Frankly, I agree. I guess the fact I am on a place like NN illustrates the fact I love sex, so maybe I am not the "norm". But really, how hard is it to keep your partner happy. A few minutes of your time every few days? I could not even imagine not sucking or fucking my hubby when he asks. Though in my case, I actually track him down more than he comes after me lol.

I feel tremendously sorry for people in loveless relationships, but also I cannot help but feel some of these people allow these situations to get out of control before dealing with it and putting their foot down. If you are no longer in love with your partner, have the decency to say it and allow the person the dignity to move on and find someone that will love them.

Isn't sex part of marriage and relationships? No one says you have to fuck everyday, but years? Am I missing something here?