mehotdee's blog post - Sticky Threesome Situation (no pun intended)

I am faced with a bit of a dilemma, and while this does not rank among the most pressing problems in the world it is presenting me with a bit of a challenge. A male friend of ours that lives out of state is traveling to our area on business in a couple weeks. He is a lifelong friend of my husband so obviously, he was invited to stay at our house while here. I have had sex with him and hubby back before he was married and we have also done same-room swap with him and his current wife when visiting them, though it has been a couple years.

My issue is that I would like to have sex with him and hubby when he visits. My husband is absolutely agreeable and mentioned the possibility to his friend who talked to his wife about it. The other wife has agreed to allow us to have a threesome when he is here under two conditions. The first is that we video it so she can watch and the second is that she be allowed to have a threesome with both our husbands the next time we visit them, which might not be for 6 months to a year from now (she has never done that before).

My husband allows me to play with select guy friends of our with or without him present, as long as he gets his fun when asked. I am not quite that liberal with him and we agree that he will only play with a couple female friends of ours when I am in the room and either participating or a same room swap situation. I do not think I would feel comfortable sitting in another room watching TV while the three of them are playing.

I know this sounds selfish since she is only asking for the same thing that she is allowing. I am thinking of just telling hubby that I would rather not open that can of worms because I am not sure I would follow through when the time to visit them happened. I am not used to sitting on the sidelines and just worry that this might change the dynamic of our relationship with them even though we do not see them that often. I also worry that giving her a video might create tension, especially for the husband, thinking she might over-analyze the situation or just the fact that she can see it all unfold in vivid detail knowing she was not there.

So, I guess I am tossing this out here to solicit some suggestions or see if anyone has had similar situations where a spouse has agreed to allow their significant other to participate in an activity without them and how that turned out. I should add that while our friends live out of state and we do not see them often, we have always gotten along very well and obviously we have played with each other's spouses.

Suggestions?