mysecretlife's blog post

Tuesday, October 30, 2007, 3:28:20 PM

twl wrote do what makes you feel good. That's not the same as "what feels good".

I have told T twice that if she has lost interest to just tell me and I will understand and have no hard feelings. She tells me she is but then seldom calls, does not return my texts and acts anything but interested. She has good reasons for us not going out at present but no reason she can't call me. She has been home a month and I have seen her once and that was when she came over and I fixed her breakfast.

We had talked about going to Vegas next weekend. She was going to go meet up with some friends she made while in CA. Last night she said it looks like it might be a girls only trip now. I felt like saying I wanted her to do something with me. They have seen her a lot more over the last 4 months than I have. Sometimes I think that would be sticking up for myself and sometimes just whiney. I feel so ridiculous about this. I am 47yo and feel like this is some damn high school game.

Anyway I am going to give things the month of November to see what happens. If she is not acting more intersted I am going to move on I don't care what she is saying.

Seems crazy to spill my guts like this to a bunch of strangers. There are so many reasons why everyone is here. If anyone has any advice on this I would love to hear it.

You all have a good day.
T

Comments

Others Have Said:

mont26 on 30-Oct-07 19:00:44

T. , sometimes you get better advice from a stranger. Sounds like no interest on her part mate. Hate it but been there and done that and I just had to cowboy up and move on. Youre to young and life is too short.
Sorry, just my two cents.

PerkyGirl on 30-Oct-07 19:13:09

My $.02? I think Mont is right- unfortunately, I know if I was in her shoes, I would be doing my whatever I could to grab even a few minutes even at ungodly hours to just call and say hi, would text msg, email, or even resort to snail mail just to say hi and hope to make you smile. Gonna PM you about an idea that I have but don't want to fill up your blog comments with it... hugs honey XXX

tight_wet_lips on 30-Oct-07 19:45:23

If she does not make you feel good...and only makes you wonder...you need to leave her be. Do what makes you feel good...and not what confuses you.

I don't like to know that you are confused or in pain. You mean alot to me. She on the other hand...regardless of her reasons needs to let you know what is going on.

I luv ya!

EmbarrassedGal on 5-Nov-07 14:47:47

Tom, spilling your guts to strangers can help you sort things out and put things in a better perspective. I hope us listening and putting in our 2 cents helps....

mysecretlife on 7-Nov-07 2:30:45

I do appreciate everyones advice and concern. I think I'll borrow EG's saying about everything happening for a reason.