rinudist's blog post - Is Swallowing Overrated?

I have always appreciated a woman who swallows. For me, blowjobs are an extremely intimate action from a woman accepting my penis in her mouth, to letting me cum in her mouth and for her to swallow it.

My second girlfriend, at the age of 16, once asked me if I knew the difference between “like and love” and she answered “spit and swallow”.

I guess this was the foundation of when I was fixated on women who are willing to swallow my cum. I believe I linked this action with loving me.

My wife, of over 25 years and been separated for 5 now, always enjoyed giving me a blowjob. In the early years, she would pull away right at the moment and complete me with her hand. In some ways, I was confused. I loved her and would do anything for her, why didn’t she have the same passion as I did?

At any rate, in my rational mind, I knew that I loved her and tried to rid the distorted thinking that her not swallowing meant she didn’t love me.

During our marriage, she did get to a point where she would accept my cum in her mouth. She was patient and made sure that I was complete then she would run to the bathroom to spit it out in the sink.

My distorted thinking sometimes made me feel like her spitting my cum out her mouth was tantamount for spitting on our love for each other. I knew it was distorted thinking, but the feelings of emptiness drown me. This led me to believe that my wife had sex with me as a sense of obligation not because she wanted to have sex with me. I mean, if she really wanted to have sex with me, she would lose herself in the passion and “swallow” my cum.

I’ve reflected on my attitude and way of thinking. I realized that my thinking dictated my feelings. So, if my thinking was distorted, not on point, I would feel empty and unlovable. Rejected by my wife.

Since our separation, I’ve been dating and having sexual relations with different women. I’ve been with a women who downright didn’t like giving oral sex to another who only wanted to have oral sex.

I’ve been with a woman who asked me not to cum in her mouth and another who let me cum in her mouth and she let it drool out the sides of her mouth (actually very hot to me, but messy).

I’ve realized that the attitude and beliefs I established at 16 great impacted my relationships in a negative way.

Today, I try hard to surrender these attitudes and beliefs. They don’t work for me or my partner.

So, is swallowing overrated? I think so. My attitude is if both partners consensually like it awesome. If I’m with the right person I believe I could go without a BJ. I don’t have to like it, but I can accept it.

If my girl likes to let it drool out her mouth and create a mess, we’ll, I’ve not only learned to accept that, but I enjoy it. It looks good and sounds awesome!!

At the end of the day, I prefer swallowing. But I’m alright with everything in between.