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rubensredd's blog post - "blood is thicker than water" can kiss my ASS

Wednesday, December 12, 2012, 2:13:54 AM
So...
I am adopted.
I am a stepchild.
I married into a family.
I gave birth ONCE.
I have friends.
I have a boyfriend and he has children, we live together thus I am a psuedo "step parent"....FYI I HATE the term "step"
I hope you see the obvious here....IF you do not, allow me to "splain".
I have damn near NO bloodline. My ONLY bloodline is the 1 time I have given birth.
Now I am about to say something that you are not supposed to say......
Blood IS NOT thicker than water.
Yes if there was a fire and I had to choose (God forbid) between my sister and my son....I would pick my son....is that because he is blood related???? No jack ass it is because he is a child and she is an adult. DUH
Now with that being said allow me to get on my soap box.
Family...the conventional term is NOT just those blood connected.
Allow me to introduce you to a new term that I have invented and used OFTEN....fRamily. These are folks that start out as friends....but become: sisters, brothers, mom, dad, auntie....whatever.....they find away in OUR hearts that make them family.
As my MOTHER always told me: You did NOT grow under my heart, you grew IN IT!!!!

So during this Christmas season or Holiday season....remember your fRamily!!!

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Ho-Lee-Chit on 12-Dec-12 2:20:55
*Hugsya HARD!!!*
voyeur3578 on 12-Dec-12 2:22:28
aww we are framily here. big hugs
tight_wet_lips on 12-Dec-12 2:27:02
Blood is not always thicker than water. I chose my distant Best Friend over my distant mother.
dirtycopper on 12-Dec-12 2:29:47
Sometimes you love your family because you have too, but your friends, you CHOOSE to love them. :D
sammiealice on 12-Dec-12 2:37:53
hugs----and fRamily can be closer than family
rubensredd on 12-Dec-12 3:07:57
Copper..and that is what my parents have raised my to believe and LOVE....and trust me when I say this....all 4 of my parents have issues that are hard to love at times...but I have a choice just as they had the choice to adopt me or marry in and love me....
rubensredd on 12-Dec-12 3:09:27
TWL....I have not even had the chance to meet my distant mother...you know the egg provider. I live in a CLOSED state so us adoptees have NO rights to meet or even know our medical history.
dcshoe8 on 12-Dec-12 5:20:23
We all have different relations with both family as well as friends as we all endured differnt things through all of our lives. Things that impacted us in youth and formed that mold for how things will be carried through our lives. That means taking in how the relations in the family growing up. How love was showed, or even how people would talk. What i have come to the conclusion of, is that with anyone, love is a choice, not a feeling. A constant decision that we have to make no matter what with the people that we want in our lives. Thats a huge blessing we all have here, we have that choice of who to allow fully in our lives. But i do agree, let us all remember our families and close ones this holiday season. They have been here to helped form us into who we are today and thats exactly where we are intended to be...for now :)
Whispermyname on 7-Jan-13 0:06:36
Omg I love this!!!!
seshat on 7-Jan-13 0:32:35
I totally agree, friends are the family we choose...
rockhard6isback on 8-Jan-13 0:49:20
I have always believed that family is who you allow to be close to you. I grew up with only one sister, but through the years I have gained friends whom I consider brothers and their parents are mine.