rubensredd's blog post - love lust longing and the real deal

Wednesday, April 3, 2013, 7:04:13 PM

For those of you that know me know that I am madly in love with the Bear. That's right I have a living breathing teddy bear that I get to wake up next to every morning. It has not been an effortless journey to be with this man. Nearly 20yrs of friendship, loving, hating, weddings, broken marriages, loss of parents, birth of children, infidelity and passionate kisses. He makes me want to be a better woman...stronger, brighter, open and daring.....But FFS this man drives me bat crap crazy!!
He is far kinkier than I have ever been...sex used to be an "issue" for me...hey can do that to a gal. He has been my therapy. I have very few hang ups about sex anymore...now that I want it ALL THE TIME....he is "too tired". Seriously....he works 3 jobs and is an amazing father that still finds time to lead a scout troop. I feel selfish even saying....well I want more. I want more time, more passion, more sex, more of him....How do I dare ask for more when I don't think he has it to give.....
If this is the real deal...how do I deal with only having a piece of him. I want all of him. I'm a horrible woman.

Comments

Others Have Said:

boxseat on 3-Apr-13 19:42:13

First of all does he know how you feel? If so, probably would be good to think about what days and times are best-without over scheduling- that just takes the fun out of it. Maybe try to amp him up while he's at work? I'd hate to see this slowly put a damper on things if it continues-sex not being the only important thing in a relationship but it really is the glue that binds...

rubensredd on 3-Apr-13 19:59:31

yes he knows....yes I amp him at work...sexy pics and texts....hell to him lunch today in my bra.

subforher on 3-Apr-13 20:00:38

Talk to him about it. Im sure he wants to make you happy. This is just one of those down times on lifes roller coaster

boxseat on 3-Apr-13 20:03:51

I like how subforher put it as well

rubensredd on 3-Apr-13 20:18:01

yes...a bump in the road and I realize that. I am woman, I am paranoid...I left a sexless marriage thus I am hyper sensitive to the issue. the funny thing is...I got some last night so it's not like we don't every do it...we used to be daily now it is 3 times a week or maybe once a week if he has had a really bad week....I'm being paranoid.

subforher on 3-Apr-13 20:29:49

I never get as sexas i want. Hell im a guy. But sometimes a cuddle is all we have the enery for and its pretty damn good

Northern Star on 3-Apr-13 20:34:56

My advice..just take him! lol..do all the foreplay till he can't possibly refuse! Where there is a will..there is a way girl!

rubensredd on 3-Apr-13 21:01:27

he agreed to let me take pics of him tonight to post...I have had some folks ask me if he is real or if he is gay (Bear being a gay term). He is real..he is not gay...he is just furry :)

subforher on 3-Apr-13 21:05:34

Well that sounds like fun rubens

tight_wet_lips on 3-Apr-13 22:32:37

Communication.....always communicate your feelings, quietly and maturely

bighoss2 on 4-Apr-13 3:28:19

time to get interested in the scouts...love finds a way