sammiealice's blog post - bad news/good news

Saturday, January 19, 2013, 2:18:38 PM

hubby called me on his way home on tuesday. after working impossible hours for years and being effective abused by some of his co-worker and management, they decide to eliminate his position. he had poured himself into his job and this was his reward. i so wanted to go to his office on wednesday and give them a piece of my mind i was so mad. so, he is without a job now (that is the bad news)

the good news is that he is out of that place. i was bluntly losing my husband to that place. we were growing further and further apart because he was never home and when he was home, he really was not with me. i was so afraid that when we retired, we would not know each other. i had reached the point where i made him take me out to lunch on the weekend just so i could have him to myself for one or two hours a week. i would go places that i really did not want to go just to be with him in the car.

he is doing ok. hurt but ok. after nearly two years of my begging him to go to see a counelor, he finally did in november and so he finally understood what was going on and that it was not him, it was where he worked. so he was better emotionally prepared for this and perhaps i think he is relieved.

during my career, i have seen so many people have this happen to them----work for a company and give there life to them to the detriment of their family and their health and then just get thrown to the side. they showed great loyalty and were thrown aside as a husk of their former self---damaged. they work for the common good of the company and are just cast aside.

how do we expect our childern to see work as anything but a place to get what you can and then move on quickly after they have watched this happen to their parents and their friends parents.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx to all. i am going to sneak back into bed and see if i can get some sweet loving.

sammie alice

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Hick Chick Deluxe on 19-Jan-13 15:17:21

Sammie I never through that,but I would Think you are his solid right now. I know you love him so your his rock some one he can depend on. He just went through a tornado he needs you to support him. Just dont let it split ya

Northern Star on 19-Jan-13 16:05:45

Listent o our little Faith..shes a smart cookie! I know you will support him in his next endevours..and I really hope ya got some lovins! mwahhh hugsss ya and whispers all will be ok hun

sidders73 on 19-Jan-13 17:24:04

The last place I worked one of the staff that worked there was made a partner in the firm. He wasn't as good as me at the job but had been there longer. He clearly felt I was a threat to him and did everything he could to make my life as difficult as possible. I came close to punching him several times and a few of my friends (I used to work in a nightclub and consequently know some very tough guys) offered to do far worse than just punch him. It became clear that I was unhappy and that the two of us would never get along. The company got rid of me which I was quite pleased about. I started my own company, my previous employers have tried to make this difficult for me but against all odds my company is doing ok. It's growing quite quickly and I'm happier than ever before. I also hear things on the grapevine about how the idiot I used to work for is losing clients, upsetting more staff and making mistakes. I'm so glad they're all realising the mistake they made and that I didn't succumb to the easy option of lashing out.

ynottt on 19-Jan-13 19:53:50

Hang in there cause retirement is great

tight_wet_lips on 19-Jan-13 20:37:55

You both will get through this. It is a blip.

Whispermyname on 20-Jan-13 9:29:11

Nobody should be made feel like that in their workplace Hun. I have been 25 years at mine and just witnessed a closed friend made redundant after 31 yrs. one of the most loyal people they had! Made me realise we are all just a number . Find the connection with him again now Hun xxxx

whokens on 22-Jan-13 5:53:34

I was one of those people that was a workaholic,, i put my work before everything and everyone,, 2 years ago,i was not very well and when i went back i saw everything was still there and not one of my managers asked how i was,, that was the day that changed my attitude towards work and i am glad it did.