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Oral sex for beginners- five ways to take you man there
If you’ve ever felt embarrassed by you lack of skills in the bedroom, or worse been too shy to try, here are five tips to help you learn how to excel performing oral sex on a man. It doesn’t matter if you have never done it before, or tried and felt uncomfortable. As long as you are willing to learn, you will get better quickly. Believe me! The only prerequisites are a good attitude and the willingness to try anything.

The kiss of desire trick 1- Never ending Saliva
The trick to good oral sex is an everlasting supply of wet. Saliva is one of the many things that will increase its flow when you are aroused, so lots of saliva is part of the job. It is an xxxxxxxxxxx message to your lover that you are enjoying yourself, and the ability to control the flow is a benefit when performing oral sex. When first starting out, you might not be very aroused at all, but more intent on what you are doing. Don’t worry-being aroused while giving head is not required of you, but is definitely required of your man!
Always have a glass of water handy, but something sweet like wine is better. Wine stimulates saliva flow, whereas water just wets your mouth. The saliva created by something sweet is slightly sticker and slimier. It feels nicer on skin. Don’t worry about stopping to take a sip: he will appreciate the added lube. The point is to never have a dry tongue or mouth, always keep it wet.
Running your tongue over already-wet-bits will also stimulate flow, so the more you dribble the more you dribble, if you know what I mean.

Trick 2- start with his testicles
Lay him on his back somewhere soft, and spread his legs slightly. Start out by licking his testicles first. The reason for this is simple- hair retains moisture. But, this can prove to be a problem at first, because it sucks is all from your mouth! But, persevere. Cover his balls with as much saliva as you can, and take your time. He is sure to love the attention to his balls, and will be even more delighted when you do move to other areas, with your good base of wetness to aid your explorations. Lick however you want, long licks or short fluttery licks. Or small sucks. Ask him which he likes best, if he doesn’t tell yo! The space between his testicle and anus (the perineum) is very sensitive, so make sure not to neglect this part. Once his testicles are sopping wet, (and your face will probably be quite wet too!) you can start to use your hand.

Trick 3- using your hand to help you
It doesn’t all have to be done with your mouth, and a well placed hand can be absolute magic as well. Make sure your hand isn’t cold, and get a big glob of saliva and spit it into your hand (quietly!). This can be done easily by getting the saliva on the end or your tongue then sort of licking it onto your hand. No spitting involved! With your nail facing the bum, slide your hand very gently down his balls and perineum. This gives your mouth a test, but keeps him stimulated. Slide your hand over all your saliva and spread it on your “canvas”. When you feel like it, lick his balls again and get ready to move onto his, by now very hard penis. Use your hand anytime you need a rest but want to keep up the momentum during any sex play.

Trick4- the teasing lick
There are many ways to perform oral sex, but we will only deal with one technique here. This involves slowly and wetly licking in an upwards motion, with a full tongue ( as much as you can without it going dry or hurting your mouth !) all the way from the testicles to the tip of the penis, bit by bit. Lick all the way around the penis, this will mean moving positions to get better angles. Get all of it. Every little inch, and go over it three times. Lick his entire penis except the head. After you have covered all areas, use long sweeping motions, keeping the penis as wet as you can, sweeping upwards from the base of the penis to almost the head. This will tease him beyond belief, and feel delicious to him. It is this anticipation of what’s to come that will excite him as much as how good it feels. As you lick up, start going a little bit further each time, until you are licking the head. It will be dry, because you haven’t touched it yet. There may be some pre-cum on the top. This is good for you because it provides you with much needed food for your salivary glands! Use this natural lube for spreading around the head of his cock with your tongue. Now you are ready to suck!

Trick5- The suck and The Hand and The Lick
Now is crunch time. He will be very aroused by now, so you take full advantage of his weakness and exploit it mercilessly. Now, take your tongue off his penis and put your hand back on his balls. Your saliva will now be cold, but don’t worry! Your hand will be warm .now, making sure your mouth is nice and wet, and his penis is nice and wet, hold the base of his penis in one hand to hold it steady and straight. Close your mouth over the head of his penis, and swirl your tongue around, finding all the ridges and running your tongue up and down and around the head. Create some suction, but don’t really suck at this point, just find a good level of suction where you can swirl your tongue around and still create saliva. Then, slowly, moving your head from side to side ( like a washing machine agitator ) work your way down the penis, sucking gently until you go down as far as you can go. Then come back up. Then go back down. Then, using your tongue in swirling motions, suck his penis- moving up and down at whatever pace you like, and whatever pace he will like. Don’t be tricked by thinking guys all want it hard and fast all the time, thought they certainly like this, slow and sensuous is also high on their desired list. Raising your eyes and looking at him while you do this can also be a big turn on for him, and you. Try it! Once you have a rhythm built up, you can start to stroke his balls with your free hand. With the hand that is holding his penis, you can start to move this a little bit as well, by loosely making a fist around his penis, and moving it up and down the shaft, you can coincide this with your sucks to create a more interesting rhythm. When your mouth gets sore, as it inevitably will, start licking his balls and penis again ( Unless he has exploded in your mouth already) and start back to square one. A point to remember is that any rhythm will almost eventually trigger an orgasm in a man. Keep your rhythm steady and get faster and your job is done. And well done, you are well on your way to being a fantastic oral sexpert!

Suggestions
Talk to your lover, ask him what he likes and try to do it. Feel free to play around, and tell your man that you haven’t had much practice and would like to investigate. He will love the attention and might return the favor! It might be a good idea, if it bothers you, to discuss whether he will come in your mouth, or outside. He shouldn’t mind, though he would probably prefer inside, and for you to swallow as if you have never tasted anything so delicious in you entire life! Reality is somewhat different, so don’t be afraid to say no if you don’t want his goo in your mouth first time around.
Remember, enjoy yourself!