tommygirl's blog post - Do nice girls really finish last???

Saturday, January 21, 2006, 10:29:32 PM

My oldest daughter has a very similar personality to myself. Very passive and lets things just roll right off of her. The only difference being I have had to be much MUCH stronger now that I am standing alone. I still let most things that effect me personally roll off without incident (normally) BUT.....when it comes to my kids...BEWARE!!

My daughter plays mixed hockey. There are 3 girls on her team. I can safely say she is the strongest of the 3 girls and she holds her own with the boys. The only exception being.....she won't hit. I found out last weekend though that her biggest battle has been taking place off the ice....in the dressing room to be exact. It seems that one of the other girls has been really harassing her. Now I think that in a sport dominated by men....the girls should be sticking together and not fighting with one another - correct?? Well this little #$*($%*% (aka not nice girl) is locking my daughter out of the girls dressing room, making my daughter pass her all her equipment while she sits on her duff, she tells her she has no friends etc etc....just down right nasty stuff.

Today I get a call from this girls mom.....now keep in mind I am pumped already over this. The mom tells me that she has a funeral to go today and can I take her daughter for the day and take her to the game.........and what did I say........YES and I am ashamed of myself ever since!!! I should have said no and told her why......but instead trying to be accomodating for the mom I let my own child down.

Pondering this one.....
TG

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Others Have Said:

valleybud on 21-Jan-06 22:42:06

By doing the right thing and "taking the high road", you haven't let your child down dear. You've taught her how to be a better person..... :)

MissP on 21-Jan-06 22:42:25

tg
seize it as an opportunity to find out a little about the girl... why she might be as she is.
Don't be ashamed - you've done the right thing. Your daughter will learn that it's better to rise above walk in the gutter.

aprilisahottie66 on 22-Jan-06 1:02:36

actually i doubt you have disappointed your child. instead i think you have shown yourself to be the class act we all know you to be. would not expect anything less from you, chickie.

HunkyJ on 22-Jan-06 13:43:32

I can only echo the sentiments of valley, missp and aps. You are truly a polished diamond in the rough babe!

tommygirl on 22-Jan-06 14:37:50

rough of buff hunkyj?? *giggles*

HunkyJ on 22-Jan-06 19:22:39

Hmmm... TG in the buff *suddenly he finds his happy thought*