This week I finally vented my true feelings to a guy that 10 years ago I held in very high esteem, a guy I respected tremendously as an intrical part of my business. A guy that I have witnessed experience his own child birth, watch him be caring and loving to his own progeny, to go through the process of renovating his old home with his loving partner, and then watch him take the easy path to a bottle of wine rather then the occasional bumpy road along the path of parenthood.
For near 3 years I have avoided him because I hated what I saw, he was drunk at midday or earlier, his partner wore the burden of working as well as parenting their young child, his support to her was non existent, he owed me money and didn't seem to care when I asked him for it... I detested what I saw, and yet couldn't bring myself to tell him exactly what I thought. And yet I was empathetic with his partner even to the point of ringing her to ask how she was, how the child was and were things improving, which they weren't even after a series of detox stays dealing with his alcolism.
So finally the opportunity arises and she moves out along with their child, and whilst she is still wondering if she has done the right thing, he rings me and pours shit on her, tells me how it's all her fault and she is a bitch to live with etc etc etc.... Well turns out he has rang lots of others saying the same thing... Well fuck that I finally grew the balls to tell him exactly what I thought and how he has never accepted responsibility for his own actions, don't blame her or others for his pathetic behaviour, man up, grow up and straighten himself out cos others have tried and I along with others are sick to death of his stupid pathetic and dangerous behaviour... (Driving) well the result? He went quiet, and I haven't heard from him since. Has he thought "fuck you?" Well probably but I don't care, the question is why didn't I air my thoughts years ago? Well it turns out not many people do and avoiding the issue is an easier option, am glad I have finally aired my view.
Alcoholism is a horrible disease that I can take hold of someone, I admire people that identify the problem and then try and do something about it. This guy doesn't think he has a problem.....
Phew... My first blog is complete... | 