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Saturnfinger1's blog post - Who's looking?

Saturday, May 7, 2022, 1:44:35 PM
I recently deleted all of my pics, because I thought "who really wants to see this?". I know people who would try to tell me that I'm being my own worst critic. Then there are those that were very kind to me and say nice things in order to help me feel better about myself. I appreciate their thoughts, but I know that I'm not what any woman wants to look at and/or fantasize about (My ex wife probably fantasized about anyone else she could think of, when we did have sex. Kinda surprised she never asked me to wear a mask, TBH.), so I decided- what's the point? My initial thought on posting here, was that there's that slim chance that I'd get some comments that would help me see myself in a different way. That maybe it might help my self esteem, but no. The strange thing to me is that now that there's no pics posted, that would draw any attention to my profile, my profile views count continues to go up. Which, to me, begs the question- who's looking?

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8-May-22 18:10:28
If you are active in status or other areas, people will go to your profile and look who you are,
you are, sorry to be blunt, very deregatory against yourself and somewhat against women, thinking they only go for looks
We are all different, as not all men drool over 20 yo women either
9-May-22 0:59:56
boy did you hit the head on my exact thoughts... I mean me... Who would want to see my ugly ass? certainly not any lady here so that's why I will never get my ID and post cause it's simply not worth getting an ID so I can post and have any lady pour eye bleach on their eye for looking at my ugly ass pics... the way I look at it is there is A LOT of perfect body guys around here to look at that make me look like a piece of shit so I will never post again. SO I feel exactly the way you do.
Saturnfinger1
9-May-22 2:38:24
Point taken, Arti. Though I certainly don't actually think that all women only go for looks. I, like shyguy, can't fathom the idea that anyone (for me, particularly women because I'm straight) can find me attractive, or a turn on, in a physical way. I know everyone has their type that they find more attractive, but I really don't feel like any woman has ever found me attractive. Those that don't know me tend to treat me like shit. It's hard to feel like women would find you attractive when they are like that. And yes, I am derogatory towards myself, sometimes. I'm not the type of person that's going to spout off about how great they are, because I'm not great. At best, I'm average. I'm not successful, good looking, stylish, etc. There isn't really anything for me to brag about, if I wanted to. But that's not the kind of person I am anyhow.

And I'm sorry that to hear that I'm not the only person to feel that way. I really don't wish this feeling on anyone. I can only hope that you find someone that makes you feel great, shyguy.
10-May-22 22:38:17
I’ve certainly felt the same about posting any pics. I’m still shocked whenever anyone looks or comments. I think you should do what makes you happiest. If that is not having pics, then so be it. Just know you do have friends here who see you a bit differently than you see yourself.
14-May-22 0:43:39
Saturn, as other will agree, Shy posted pictures ending up on front page more than once
so he have had ladies liking his pics, he just chose to ignore that fact
the deregatory and being awful i dont get?
after my stroke i got fat and a bit different looking
i would still not call myself ugly.... but not beautiful either
11-Mar-24 10:28:53
I have alot in common with you fellas. It fucking sucks.
11-Mar-24 10:31:53
@Artistic I know EXACTLY how Shyguy1976 feels, I'm the same way. I'd rather tell the truth about how I feel like these fellas here, rather than PRETEND everything is just fucking dandy here. I STILL want to look perfect like the women I have bookmarked. Me even being on the front page ain't changing anything.