cas999's blog post - Have I got ......

Tuesday, September 29, 2009, 11:32:36 PM

The TIME?

If you are a friend and you need me – ‘Yes I have got the time’, no matter what my circumstance at the ‘time’ I will find the time for you (I might ask you to wait a few minutes but I’ll be there), I will look after you as best I can. Remember, I will be your honest friend, you might not necessarily like what I have to say but that is why you asked me

That is why I am disappointed by a few friends, I heard a long time ago ‘Do not judge other people by your own expectations/standards as you are bound to be disappointed’. That is true, however, I refuse to change how I am, I am willing to be disappointed by the few and I will hold onto my own standards.

I have a good friend in hospital at the moment, a grumpy ole bugger but much loved amongst the ‘circle of friends’ for exactly that reason! I have text, emailed, phoned the ‘circle of friends’ and tried to get some interest in visiting him, tried to make a ‘rota’ of visiting...…. that is easy to do with the internet access we all have, it would take some pressure off his family and give them some time to do the ‘normal’ things they also need to do...I’ve not even heard reasons, let alone excuses, I’ve heard nothing.

I wonder if any of the ‘circle of friends’ have thought about how they might feel.... if they happened to be in hospital, with crap food, crap company (mine and his family excepted of course!!) and crap to deal with, would they want their friends to pop in and show moral support at least? Hell they would!

I guess this is true to any aspect of friends.....’You are not really a friend if you have not got the time to be there or at least the time to explain why you are not there’

It really does not take a lot of TIME to text, email, phone ...... just be a friend and explain your reason? It might just make the world of difference to someone!

Comments

Others Have Said:

sniperman8152 on 30-Sep-09 0:35:52

Well i guess me and you are true friends then Cas....
Well i knew that anyway ....

blukittie on 30-Sep-09 0:49:47

It's sad to know that when things get tough,then that's when you know who your real friends are.I do know that sometimes people find certain situations uncomfortable for themselves (ie.hospitals,illnesses). That's when you should extend yourself,and at least offer something (heartfelt)when you don't exactly know what to say.Most of time those things will be received in kind.

Wodja on 30-Sep-09 0:50:52

bigtitter86 on 30-Sep-09 1:12:40

you have always been a good friend to me :)

~Wenchie~ on 30-Sep-09 1:13:00

That made my heart ache a bit, you have nothing, if u dont have ya mates, :( xxx

Kensington Gore on 30-Sep-09 1:54:26

...but it's typical of you to BE that one true who does care about her friends xxx <3

mdguy on 30-Sep-09 2:07:03

Well, I said you should blog more. I'm sorry it's not the best of reasons, but it's good you got it out. I hope your m8 will be feeling better soon, and your friends pull their heads out of their bums.

xxxxxx

likklelarry. on 30-Sep-09 10:12:52

wise words indeed. On that subject i need to go in next week for a cock transplant.....can you hold my hand friend?!!

Bigg! on 30-Sep-09 10:34:51

As someone who fairly recently spent almost a year in hospital, I can say that a text means a lot, especially in the miserable early hours

juicy on 30-Sep-09 12:45:06

Time is the most precious gift you can give in situations like that. Shame so may don't realise it.

airboy on 30-Sep-09 18:02:17

of course, you're right cas. you usually are.
wishing your grumpy old friend a speedy recovery.

just_looking123 on 30-Sep-09 20:35:14

I have absolutely nothing more to add (for well known reasons)

Ltdan on 4-Oct-09 17:52:23

that's how you tell the true friends cas! when the chips are down, who will show up? you are truely a great friend! xxxxxxx

ben247 on 7-Oct-09 16:37:21

people develop a comfort zone cass many wont step outside it i think it doesn't make them bad people per say just weak that they cant step outside, your a strong caring woman and theres not many who reach your standards.
saying that i visited my ex in hospital (very bitter split) it took a lot to do but i felt good for doing it so i guess in the long run your friends are the ones missing out.