funlvncwby's blog post - Tall dark and handsome?

Thursday, May 26, 2016, 1:57:34 PM

Ok, I am having a soap box moment. So... you will have to indulge me. 《Grabs a soap box and steps up》

I am getting increasingly more frustrated with women and I'm not sure how to handle it. While I will admit I am no "Ken Doll", I do consider my self fairly attractive. What I lack in physical appearance, I completely overcome with creativity, honesty, and passion. That being said, how does a guy overcome the issue of being short? I am recently divorced and am hitting the single scene at the ripe age of 42. I am also only 5' 8" and a little over weight. Because of my Irish heritage, I'm very much "white".

I have been on multiple singles sites and iwould say 75% of the women are looking for someone taller than they are and "riped". Should I even invest my time and money in these sites? I have tried them in the past with minimal success or am I doomed to just be short and single? I can't change my height and even if I could fake it, isn't that just stating an obvious lie on my height where it would be obvious I was wearing some kind of enhancement? That would be like a woman wearing one of those bras with cup enhancers. At some point, the truth will come out.

Am I just way off the mark on this or is there any advice I should consider?

《Rant over and soap box pushed to the corner》

Comments

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Artistic on 26-May-16 14:48:39

well you re not that short?? you re average size i think? i dont really see nn as a dejting site, even if people do meet up here,,,,

funlvncwby on 26-May-16 15:09:45

Oh, I'm not using NN as a dating site. Just a place to talk and enjoy other people that are real and not a fake profile to try and scam people. I love this site.

funlvncwby on 26-May-16 15:11:14

Also, aside from my cousin, I'm the shortest guy in my family. All the other men are 6 foot or taller. Not sure which gene pool my height came from.

LuLusBakery on 26-May-16 21:32:03

I am under 5 feet tall....so pretty much the size of your average 5th grader. To me, you are tall. :) Having never participated in a dating site, I am not sure what to advise, but I wish you luck. Please don't let size hold you back....it should not.

RoxanneS on 27-May-16 0:18:59

I'm with Lulu on this one. You're tall. :) There are plenty of women shorter than you so you'll be taller than them. :P Being "short" is not an issue. Being narrow-minded about physical attractiveness is. Don't let your appearance dictate your interactions. If 75% of women are looking for someone who doesn't look like you, perhaps you can focus on the 25% who don't place looks at the top of their list of considerations? Perhaps it's because I'm nearing the end of my childbearing years but I would prioritize the qualities you listed over looks in potential dating partners.

Plenty of tall single people in the world. Plenty of short married ones too. Don't imagine you're "doomed" to any state. Just let your authentic self shine wherever you share your profile. It's the only thing that makes sense, really. :)

Good luck!

JediMasterBater on 27-May-16 3:13:08

Well, I've done plenty of online dating and to be frank I truly despise. Unfortunately it seems to be the place that people are going to most and it doesn't hurt to keep it as an option if you can afford to pay for it. I think that you will come off as attractive to the 25% of women who don't care about superficial things such as your height and appearance, like Rox said. Just don't send unsolicited dick pics and don't make dirty jokes/attempt to engage in sex chat before you meet a woman and you should be fine! (Those are only sort of tongue in cheek... lol)

funlvncwby on 27-May-16 4:48:52

I was on this site for almost a year before I got the courage to post my first pic. I don't just throw my pics out there. I guess since my divorce I'm just a little short on self confidence. Thank you all for the comments.

*sorcha* on 30-May-16 17:00:06

I don't think you are short at all. I have tried the dating sites also and either get contacted by men who want to move in with me the following week or just want sex right off the bat. There has to be a happy medium out there, but for now I have given up on the dating sites. I would rather be alone than deal with that. I understand about the self confidence issue after divorce. That is how I found NN almost 8 years ago. Hang in there. It will happen when the time is right :)