Well, well, well, it appears that my existential crisis was misplaced and my mojo was just sleeping for a few days. After over 30 years almost continual use, i guess even our esteemed sexual organs need a break.
But the sparks did indeed fly and due to something very new to me: rope play.
The delightful Persephone_Brown and her Mr posted some fabulous photos last night showing some of their exploration of it. Was it exciting? Oh, my! Yes, yes it was.
Which led me into the surprisingly bright and wonderful world of rope play on the internet and the stirrings that P_B started bloomed.
I now really want to try this. As much as anything, it is the art of tying - some people are so creative which really appeals to me. And obviously the mutuality of it all - so intimate.
So, thank you Persephone, thank you NN for introducing us, and thank you world for being so diverse and wonderful.
If anybody else has ideas of different erotic fun that I should be looking up, well you know where the comments are!

Um, feeling a bit weird. As a gentleman who likes to relieve himself twice a day, I have just realised that it is three days since the last session. What's more, I have not really had any desire to do it and my normal ability to get an erection at the drop of a hat has deserted me.
Now, I have been looking at and rating lots of photos and vids, usually an activity that has the desired effect but to no avail. In fact, only reading Zatanna's dirty blog this morning has given me a stirring (check it out, it's awesome)!
It is not something I am too worried about, yet, but I do feel like I have missed out. It also ruined the planned photo last night!
On the plus side, next time I should have a rock like stiffy!
So every cloud hopefully will have a silver lining

So, somebody else who knows a little of how I feel but decided to write to a newspaper agony aunt about it. Read this - http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/aug/29/havent-had-sex-with-my-wife-for-eight-years-becoming-obsessed?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

Now, I find my partner totally irresistible and I am happy to be a carer. Being robbed of our sex life though is a horrid thing. We talk about it a lot but she is nowhere near as bothered (let's face it there are bigger issues) and has accepted her physical limitations.
It really does bother me though and while she says she is happy for me to go out and get some occasionally, I guess I feel a bit of the guilt this guys feels about playing with himself (Not a guilt I feel). But that said, I really am a sexually motivated person - hence my 8 years on this site!
I know it is selfish, I know that I should be more bothered about the real stuff in real world land than whether I get laid, and I know some will judge me for this post. Well, yeah. I get it. But, sex is important to me and I don't want to spend the rest of my life without it. My partner makes me happy in most other ways so, maybe, I should just be happy with what I've got and deal with it.
Thanks for reading (if you did!), this is the only place where I have been able to let this out.

Inspired by Persephone_Brown's wonderful date night blog (If you haven't read it - go there: she is a brilliant writer, I am a mere humble hack) I have been thinking about the comments people say in real life. In fact, it is a bit of a bug bear of mine.
The rise of social media seems to have given people the courage to say really offensive and nasty things online with, people think, no consequence. This is bad enough, especially given the awful stories you hear of cyber bullying. But, I have increasingly seen a trend of people carrying this into the real world. There is nothing new in that you might think, but I must say that, prior to the Internet, inappropriateness was generally the preserve of the drunk, the bully or the ignorant.
Now, I keep hearing people say the sort of thing they post of Facebook or Twitter to people's faces. It's like the filter is failing. As a reserved, stiff upper lip type, I never fail to be shocked by this. I do call people out on it too and most have the grace to be a little ashamed.
As the continuum of societal change constantly shifts, I do wonder where this will all end up going. I live in hope that this trend is replaced by a kinder one, but sadly, I suspect not. As somebody said in status land yesterday and I am totally in agreement with, if you can't think of anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

So, got self conscious on last night's blog- sorry. I am slightly discombobulated; vexed at a moment of indecision.
I am currently in a bit of a sexless situation. I am desperate for a bit of physical closeness, the sort I just don't get at the moment. I use NN to help, and it does, but I just miss intimacy so much. I think getting out there for fun would help but I guess the introvert part of me is getting in the way of meeting people. This never used to be a problem - and I find it frustrating now.
I know I am not the only person in this situation but it has been playing on my mind more and more and I wonder what to do.
Advice always welcome!

Inside the mind of an omnivert

You may not have realised this but I am an omnivert. Now, now, I can imagine some people's reaction to this - 'what sort of bollocks is he spouting now?' - and I understand that as the first time I heard it, it's exactly what I thought, but hear me out. An omnivert is somebody with both introvert and extrovert qualities. I always used to think myself an introvert - I am very modest and self deprecating (which has limited my career from time to time); I am shy with people I don't know and I prefer written conversation to oral.
But! I also love being the centre of attention! It's like performance and I am therefore great at parties and public speaking etc. I can be the life and soul when I want to be and am not backward about coming forward. So l, you see, there is a paradox. I love a good paradox - it makes life so much more exciting.
NN does appeal to both sides of my character: I can put out; be naughty; be occasionally outrageous; say things I wouldn't in public. But equally, I can be shy and never reveal the real world me. You get real me in either world but just different facets of my personality.
I can spot a lot of extro- intro- and omniverts here - which are you, dear reader?
There is a point to all of this but my introvert side kicked in so I am going to think about it tonight and decide whether to post about that tomorrow!

After 8 years, I still have not garnered enough likes or hots to get a rating on any of my pics. Am I bothered? I suppose it is human nature to say - a little bit. But not a lot. As I have said, I pose because I enjoy it: it is a release. That said, it occurs to me that possibly a lot of success is basic marketing - the more you engage, the more likely it is to happen. I am not a muscle man and I don't have anything like the biggest swinging dick. Worse still for a man, I don't have any women in my pics which certainly seems to make a big difference.
Nevertheless, people can overcome this through a greater level of engagement on the site - making friends, participating and generally being a good member. This is no different to marketing techniques used by many big companies and increasingly vloggers across the world.
Like vloggers, one of the best tools is to rate and comment on others but this takes time and commitment. Some people do it to excess (you know who I mean) and I have no idea how they manage it. Some have no need. One of my fellow Brits seems to have struck the balance right and she also posts some great pics. Good for her!
Anyhow, this is the sort of thing that keeps my mind active at work so what do you think? Are you chasing that rating and what works for you? Or are you happy to let it flow naturally?
Thanks for reading and let me know if there is anything that you would like me to write about in the comments section. Oh and you can drop me a rating if you like

Bertrand Russell once put it like this: 'Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time at all'. I sometimes feel like this about being here.
I have lost hours gazing at some of my favourite posters, reading blogs, on the forum and now in status land. Is it a productive use of my time? I would definitely argue that it is. I have a pretty full life between work, caring responsibilities and a little bit of volunteering. What I don't have is much 'me time' and NN fills that void wonderfully.
In this microcosm I have seen some wonderful humour, touching real life stories, had some interesting and downright raunchy chats (remember you need to be friends to chat ) and I have spoken to people across the world. Essentially, the whole world in one place, but somewhere occupied by people with a common interest and, I would argue, a very liberal attitude to their bodies and sexuality. I like this world.
Certainly permissiveness seems to be on the wane in the real world and judgements on individuals characters are becoming harder. We need places like NewbieNudes to allow us to explore our desires, to admire and enjoy each other in a generally supportive environment.
Naturally, there are rotten apples and these people need to be educated. Some people will be disappointed that perhaps they are not getting the ratings that they want - and that's understandable when you bare your body to the world. But they have taken a brave step and should be lauded for it - they should certainly laid themselves for it.
In fact, we should really all celebrate - we have the freedom to show and we have exercised it - we are the ones who choose experience.
So, yes, I probably waste some of my time on here, but through enjoyment and experience, I certainly do not feel like I have wasted a second.
What do you think? I'd be interested in your views.

Well, hello there! Nice of you to pop by.
So after 8 years of being here, I thought that i would do a blog. I have several for all sorts of things but this is different for me. This is where I can be somewhat less guarded and open up on my more sexual side.
So a little about me. Or more specifically, my user name. As with most people it was a random thing. The roman god Janus was the first part - looking to the future and the past but also having two faces. Both ideas appealed to me but I wanted a bit more. Then I remembered a character from Doctor Who, Leela, who used a janis thorn as a weapon. I was very fond of her as a teenager (as any hot blooded man would be) so partly in tribute I used a corruption of both Janus and Janis Thorn to come up with a name.

As to why I joined? Well it was the fault of a FWB who had a profile on here and encouraged me to join. She is long gone, sadly, as she posted great pictures, but I stayed and generally lurked. In case you are wondering, she is fine and happy, we still correspond. I met another person on here and had more fun before work got in the way and i had to devote myself to that.

I have stayed because I have had a very great sex life over the years but as I have become more responsible and had greater responsibilities, I cannot do all the naughty things that I used to. Repression is a very bad thing that can eat away at you, so NN is my outlet. I occasionally put out through photos or naughty messages. Probably go to far sometimes, and if I do, please do tell as i never mean to offend!

I like the people on here. I like to read and look and have started playing on status. Drop by. Say Hi. I don't bite and really would like to make more friends.

If you like what i write, let me know. I will try a few different types of blog over the next few weeks and let's see how it goes!