TNBuilder's Blog - page 25

Well, I had said that I did not want the distraction of sleeping with The Ex, but she expressed interest, so we made plans for Sunday night. She did come over but was not in the mood, so we sat and talked for a bit before going to sleep. She was set for jury Duty today and had planned to come back this evening for a fuck session, but wouldn't you know it, she gets selected and sequestered. All you have to do is be just a bit 'off center' and they will let you off of the jury, but not her --- Noooo. Not sure what is going to happen, but we will see.

Well, The Wife left for her yearly trip today and will be gone for 2 1/2 weeks. Past years, The Ex hung around, but I am not expecting that this year, partially because she is busy with her life and also because I do not need the distraction. I am busy with work and would rather have a few weeks alone.
I have been pretty upset with The Wife the past few weeks and need to try and figure out what I want to do moving forward. I know that we need to get counseling and she needs to make some decisions on how she wants to handle her / our life. She needs to loose weight for health reasons and seems to only want the easy way out in the form of weight loss surgery (the second time) and that is not the answer. She also needs to make a decision on our sex life and if it is gone or something that she is going to put effort into, I am tired of always being the instigator.

This past weekend was The Wife 50th birthday and she was Freaking Out! F it, it is really Just A Number, but I guess not to her. Friday we went out with a friend and had a decent dinner, when we got home we actually had a pretty good fuck with oral on both sides and as best as I could figure out, she came at least 3 times (maybe 4). Saturday my Oldest Daughter had worked out a surprise party for her and Boy Did We Surprise Her! worked out great and had another decent sex session that evening when we got home.
Got to work long days this weekend, so I am not expecting a repeat performance
Oh well, we will see what happens.

Yesterday we both felt lazy (unusual for a weekday) when the alarm went off so we did not get up immediately when we should have so I decided to sort of take advantage of The Wife staying in bed, rolled her on to her back and we had a quickie. I am not a great fan of quickies, as I like to drag things out and have a munch and such, but I could not resist the opportunity.

Friday night, I felt like fucking (well I fell that way almost every night) since I had been sick for almost 3 weeks, I figured the odds were pretty good. I was right and The Wife and I had a decent fuck. Only problem was that afterwards, as we were relaxing, my entire left arm cramped up, so I ended up not sleeping and had to work all day Saturday. Good news was that I slept well Saturday night.

Those who have read my blogs over the years, have read about The Wife needing to loose weight (not that I am slim in any way). She had weight loss surgery about 18 years ago and lost weight and looked amazing. Since then, she gained all of the weight back and blames it on everything but her eating habits. Will not exercise and will not eat better. Yesterday, we went to her doctor together and the doc asked what she ate and she mentioned the 2 or 3 small) chocolate bars each evening, welllll the doc said you need to quit that and start exercising, and she just made excuses why she cannot exercise and ignored the suggestion to eat less. Doc said there are pills to help but pointed out that they will not work unless you also exercise. I do not think the point got through to her. After dinner, she once again was eating her chocolate bar(s). Just frustrates me so much, she blames the weight gain on everything but her own actions.

Well, finally, last night, we did fuck. The Wife even apologized for lack of sex during the vacation. It was not as good as some of the times, but I did eat her and sucked me a for a bit then when we fucked, I managed to hold off cumming long enough for her to be cumming hard.

Well, Happy Birthday to me! Still nothing happening in the bedroom, but we are going out to see a great show tonight and will probably have a nice dinner to go along with it. I guess in my current life, Good Food will have to replace sex.

Of course, Tuesday evening (after I had written the last update) she announced that she was on her period - so no activity for at least a few more days.

So the weekend went pretty much as expected - no sex -. On our way to the plane, she said she had forgotten her/our bullet and I said not to worry. We then discussed the fact our kids would be in the next room so If anything happened, we would have to be very quiet and she said not a problem. Woke up Friday morning and tried to 'start something', her first comment is I have a full bladder, so don't push too hard ... I got up and said forget it. Nothing more said or tried the rest of the weekend. ended up getting sick when we got home so for sure nothing happening there.